I just put-up this post over at BusinessWeek based on an inspired email I got from an oppressed employee who uses “asshole boxing” and a variety of other clever tactics to blunt the damage he suffers from an asshole boss. They used the picture above to lead into the post.
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Asshole Boxing Over at BusinessWeek.Com
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The No Asshole Rule as “Like Garlic to a Vampire.”
I just got an interesting note about how one person uses The No Asshole Rule as a defensive tool at work. I have edited his email a bit for length and to protect the innocent (and the guilty):“I’m currently working in a pretty toxic office that has a certified A-Hole in a senior management position. Even though this person should be a professional colleague and teammate, this person has gone out of her way to be rude, dismissive, and insulting, using all of the techniques you cover in your book. Her attacks are largely targeted at me for some unknown reason. I’ve never done anything to her or said anything offensive to her or about her to others. I’ve tried on several occasions to reach out to her with my assistance on projects where I have significant expertise, but she has quite rudely dismissed all my attempts to try and work with her as a teammate.
I noticed an interesting phenomenon when I started leaving your book on the front of my desk. Her attacks seem to become less frequent after she noticed the title of the book (like garlic to a vampire). Until I am ready to move on to a more civilized workplace, I am employing your A-Hole avoidance practices to minimize exposure to her toxic attitude. They are working well and have made coming to work a more tolerable experience. I am also working hard to catch any A-Hole behavior that I may be about to perpetrate against others in the office. The best way I know is to try and stay humble and not let my ego fly out of control.
It really is a shame to see how this one person is killing morale and productivity in our office.This really could be a great place to work. The problem is that this person is a typical know-it-all who actually does know quite a bit. Her ego is too big to admit when she does not know something and she goes into A-Hole mode to blame other people when things go wrong, or don’t go her way.”
It sounds to me like this manager is handling this quite maturely and wisely – applying many of the tips for people who are trapped with an asshole boss or in a nasty workplace, with the ultimate goal being to get out.
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Gun Racks, Pick-Up Trucks and Aggression on the Road
The recent supreme court ruling, which affirmed the right to bear arms and that interpreted the second amendment in a very pro-NRA kind of way, reminded me of one of my favorite old studies. In this 1975 study by Turner and his colleagues, they manipulated the situation so that a pick-up truck at a stop light was slow to start moving after the light turned green. They measured aggression by how quickly and how intensely the driver behind the truck started honking. Turner and his colleagues varied two things about the pick-up truck: a gun rack with or without a gun, and two different bumper stickers. One said “friend” and the other said “vengeance.” It is an interesting study because many people — including me — predict in advance that the gun and vengeance stickers would lead to do less honking, as the impatient driver waiting behind the truck might fear getting shot by the aggressive and armed person. In fact, Turner and his colleagues found the opposite pattern. The drivers stuck behind the truck were more likely to honk when the driver had a gun, and even more likely to honk when he had both a gun and a vengeance bumper sticker! One explanation is that aggression breeds aggression.
P.S. There are a lot of studies on horn honking — people honk more when it is hot out, men honk more than women, both men and women honk more at women, and people in low status cars get honked at more than people in high status cars.
P.P.S. Here is the reference: TURNER, C. W., J. J. LAYTON, and L. S. SIMONS (1975) “Naturalistic studies of aggressive behavior: aggressive
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Ten Commandments of Egoless Programming
Check out this list from Coding Horror. With just one or two exceptions, it could just as well be the Ten Commandments for how to be an egoless employee or boss, or even an egoless human being. Certainly, anyone who does work that requires interdependence with others would benefit from following most or all of these rules. I especially like #3:
‘No matter how much “karate” you know, someone else will always know more. Such an individual can teach you some new moves if you ask. Seek and accept input from others, especially when you think it’s not needed.’
That last sentence is really something. Think of how much human misery would have been averted if more leaders and so-called experts of all stripes had sought input especially when they thought they didn’t need it.
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Corporate Creativity: Wisdom From The Late Gordon MacKenzie
As I have written here before, my favorite book on corporate creativity is Orbiting the Giant Hairball by the late Gordon MacKenzie. For me, nothing nearly as good has been written since. I was searching for insights on creativity and came across this old — but still very fresh — Fast Company interview with him. Check out the whole thing (and read the book). But here are a few gems:
‘In the mid-1980s, MacKenzie founded an oasis for creativity —
called the Humor Workshop — just outside the walls of Hallmark
headquarters. “I wrote a one-page, handwritten description of the
department,” MacKenzie recalls. “Without telling my boss, I called his
boss, the vice president of the creative division, and we had lunch. By
the end of the meal, the VP was telling me, ‘We’ve got to do this!’”Eventually MacKenzie shifted his orbit and returned to company
headquarters, this time with a title of his own invention: Creative
Paradox. “My job was to be loyally subversive,” he explains.’That phrase “loyally subversive” is so delightful, so much cognitive complexity in this those two little words. Like this old story about Chuck House at HP. Or how about this one:
I became a liaison between the chaos of creativity and the discipline
of business. I had no job description and a title that made no sense,
but people started coming to me with their ideas, and I would listen to
those ideas and validate them. When you validate a person, what you’re
really doing is giving them power — like a battery charger.A battery charger! Another great phrase, and consistent with Rob Cross’s research on energizers.
Finally check-out his answer to the interviewer’s question:
‘What is the biggest obstacle to creativity?
Attachment to outcome. As soon as you become attached to a specific
outcome, you feel compelled to control and manipulate what you’re
doing. And in the process you shut yourself off to other possibilities.I got a call from someone who wanted me to lead a workshop on
creativity. He needed to tell his management exactly what tools people
would come away with. I told him I didn’t know. I couldn’t give him a
promise, because then I’d become attached to an outcome — which would
defeat the purpose of any creative workshop.’This last point is remarkably similar to a point that I heard from Tim Brown, the CEO of IDEO, make just a few months back.
Finally,note that these are arguments about how to spark creativity. I would be the last person to argue that organizations need to be all about creativity all the time. Doing routine things well requires an entirely different mindset.
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Creativity as a Decision: Wisdom from Robert Sternberg
Robert
Sternberg is a psychologist who has studied an astounding range of topics,
from wisdom, to intelligence, to creativity, to love, to leadership. I’ve been doing some reading on creativity
this morning, and I ran into this quote from Sternberg in a comment that he
wrote in the American Psychologist in
2002, which he titled “Creativity as a Decision”
(This was published in the May issue on page 376):“If psychologists
wish to teach creativity, they likely will do better to encourage people to
decide for creativity, to impress on them the joys of making this decision, and
also to inoculate them for some of the challenges attendant on this decision.
Deciding for creativity does not guarantee that creativity will emerge, but
without the decision, it certainly will not. As a mentor, nothing makes me
happier than watching at least a substantial proportion of the students I have
mentored make this decision. They decide that they may pay a price but that it
is a price worth paying. By making this decision, they transform both their own
lives and the lives of others. What greater reward can life hold?”I like this both because it doesn’t sugar coat or over
glorify creativity. And its simplicity
reminds me of Karl Weick’s
lovely insight that people move through three stages as they gain knowledge
about a subject: From overly simplistic, too overly complex, to – in rare cases
– elegantly simple. Sternberg seems to
be getting to the third stage! Sternberg argues that there are many studies
and complex findings about creativity (e.g., does it require high or low
self-esteem?), but the common theme he sees is that creative people have made
the decision to be creative, regardless of setbacks and frustrations. And his simple insight that deciding to be
creative does not assure creativity, but without that decision, it is sure not
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Free Erasers: All Gone!
Sorry!
The erasers all gone! If you got your request in before 3 Pacific Time, you will get an eraser. Otherwise, I am sorry, they are all gone.
Thanks,
Bob
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Asshole Rating Self-Exam (ARSE) Update
As I wrote over at the BusinessWeek site on toxic bosses, the ARSE or Asshole Rating Self-Exam continues to be used — this little self-test was taken from Chapter 4 of The No Asshole Rule. Guy Kawasaki put it on his blog, and came-up with that great name. I still have people introduce themselves with their number on the test, like “Hi, my name is Joe, and I am a 3.” (A”0″ would be someone who reports not a single asshole behavior; a “24” reports being an asshole in 24 different ways, like “You secretely enjoy watching other people suffer and squirm.”). I just got an update from Emily at Electric Pulp and she reports that we are closing in on 160,000 completions (158, 411). And the average person “scores” a 6.48, which I would call a “borderline certified asshole.” So, the self-examation continues.
P.S. Emily also gave me an update for the ACHE, the Asshole Client from Hell Exam (you can read aboout the orgin of it here). It has been completed by 12,485 people who rate their nasty clients, with an average score of 14.3. As this is a list of only 20 nasty client behaviors, this means the average respondent finds that his or her client is a certified asshole.
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Free Asshole Rule Erasers! 100 to Give Away
SORRY THEY ARE GONE
One of the little marketing gimmicks used by my publisher was to give away free “no asshole rule” erasers when the book first came out. People still talk to me about them and keep asking for them, but I had given away all but a small personal supply. My publisher was kind enough to make-up another batch — the front and back of the new version is pictured above. If you want to see the original, look here. I am going to give a bunch away at my forthcoming AlwaysOn talk (there is a steep admission fee, but the live streaming video is free). I thought it would also be fun to share some erasers with readers of this blog. And my 12 year-old daughter Eve is looking a bit bored today, and this seems like a perfect project.
So, if you send me an email to my gmail account, bobsutton54@gmail.com, and include your address. My daughter (who has much better handwriting than I do) will address the envelope and send you in an eraser. I promise I will delete the addresses after we get the envelopes out, as I despise SPAM and telemarketers as much as you do. I will let you know when we hit 100 and the give away is over.
P.S. In the name of honest advertising, note the actual eraser is smaller than that pictured.
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McKinsey Quarterly Readers Love Brad Bird
As I
wrote a few months back, Huggy Rao from Stanford, Allen Webb from McKinsey
and I interviewed Pixar’s Academy Award
winning director Brad Bird for the McKinsey
Quarterly. Brad was one of the most lively and insightful people
I’ve ever had the privilege
of interviewing. You can read it here (there is also multi-media
with it). It seems that the Quarterly readers love Brad Bird too,
as this article was the most
popular among readers last quarter.The two main things about
innovation that Brad reinforced for me are the value of tolerating and
celebrating constructive friction and of never being satisfied with good enough
— he made very clear about how the mediocrity of the once great Disney
animation studio could be traced directly to the attitude that “we are satisfied
with our work, it is good enough.” In contrast, my daughter and I
were lucky enough to see a preview of WALL-E earlier
in the week at Pixar (an astounding movie, especially the first 30 minutes are
pure magic), and although the Pixar people we talked to were clearly very proud
of this film, the main thing they seemed worried about was that all their
success would make them complacent and less creative. That kind of
paranoia and hungriness is, I think, a hallmark of people and organizations
that are creative over the long haul.