Category: The No Asshole Rule

  • Silencing Clueless Assholes: A Lesson from the Movie Theatre

    I just got a most interesting email about how one
    guy stopped some rude and loud people at a movie theatre. Here it is (with his name removed):

    ‘Last night I went to see "Live
    Free or Die Hard" (which, by the way, is probably the shortest path to
    post-traumatic stress disorder). There were a bunch of people behind me,
    talking through the movie, making fun of things, generally being distracting. I
    did the usual thing where I turn around and look at them to let them know that
    I’m right in front of them and that I can hear them really well, but that
    didn’t work. I was starting to get pretty frustrated.

    During one longer, quiet stretch, I turned to my friend next to me and said,
    pretty loudly, "So, what do you want to talk about?" and he
    said, also loudly, "I don’t know, why don’t we wait until later?"

    It worked, the people behind us remained silent through the rest of the
    picture. The best part was that it wasn’t blatantly confrontational, was kind
    of funny, and didn’t lead to any escalation or anything.

    One of my prouder moments as a reformed asshole.’

    I find this story to be most enlightening because
    it suggests three more general lessons about “asshole management.”

    1. The distinction between “intentional” and
    “clueless” asshole is important. This
    little story implies that these rude people were sufficiently self-focused that
    they weren’t aware how much they were upsetting other people in the theater.

    2. The trick
    with “clueless” assholes is to find some way to help them realize the impact
    that they are having on others, without being an asshole yourself.  The
    fellow who wrote this email wasn’t having much luck with more subtle tactics;
    but simply imitating these noisy people proved to be enough to help them
    realize that they were blowing it.

    I should point out, however, that some people are
    so deeply clueless that subtle tactics may not work and, of course, there are
    some people who are perfectly aware of what they are doing, but really don’t
    care.  (For example, I went to a nice
    restaurant in Berkeley last week with my daughter, and there was a woman
    sitting a few tables away who spent the entire meal talking into her cell phone
    at decibel level that was twice as loud as anyone else in the place… we all
    gave her lots of subtle hints, but it was pretty clear that she realized what
    she was doing, but just didn’t care.)

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    3. Finally,
    I suspect that the above tactic worked for two reasons. The first, as implied, is that it helped
    these temporary assholes realize that they were, in fact, ruining the
    experience for others. The second is
    that is provoked mild embarrassment among the rude theater-goers. Economists and many psychologists focus
    heavily on the power of rewards and incentives for motivating human
    behavior. But this little story suggests
    that, as any good micro-sociologist can tell you, the desire to avoid
    embarrassment (and to maintain “face”) is a powerful, and often overlooked,
    motivator of human behavior.  The classic
    work here was done by the late sociologist Erving Goffman, notably in his classic book
    “The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life.”

    Thanks to this anonymous e-mailer for sending in
    this enlightening story. If you have any other ideas about effective – but
    civilized – ways to stop rude people at the theater (or other public places),
    please let use know. As this e-mailer
    implies, finding effective tactics that don’t carry a big risk of making the
    problem even worse can be difficult.

  • S.F. Bay Guardian’s Weird Plug for My Commonwealth Club Talk

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    The San Francisco Bay Guardian is a serious, if at times irreverent, weekly paper, a "free alternative newspaper" that has been around since 1966.  You can check out the online version here.  The paper’s alternative spirit is reflected in the plug that they published for my talk next week at the Commonwealth Club, which is not your standard dull announcement:

    MONDAY (9th)

    "Putting an End to Jerks and Bullies at Work and in Society"
    Commonwealth Club, 595 Market, SF; www.commonwealthclub.org. 6pm, $18.
    If only I’d read Robert Sutton’s The No Asshole Rule before receiving my
    one and only wedgie in the first grade, things might’ve been different. I might
    have grown up well-adjusted instead of becoming a misanthropic calendar editor
    with a freezer full of severed heads. Damn you, Sutton, for writing your book 30
    years too late! Who’s the asshole now?*

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    P.S. John R. Bolton, former U.S. Ambassador to the United Nations, speaks at the Commonwealth Club about a week after me, on July 17th.  Note that (if the press reports and congressional record are accurate), Bolton appears to qualify as a certified asshole.  According to the Los Angeles Times, for example, former subordinate and fellow Republican Carl  Ford Jr. ‘described Bolton as a serial abuser of underlings and a
    "quintessential kiss-up, kick-down sort of guy."
        This argument is developed in The No Asshole Rule, but I was not the first to suggest in print that Bolton appears to qualify as a workplace asshole.  The Village Voice ran a story on April 14th, 2005 about Bolton under the headline "Wanted: Complete Asshole For U.N. Ambassador." 

    It sounds like a well-matched pair of talks!

  • No Asshole Rule Round-Up: From the McKinsey Quarterly to the Commonwealth Club, to the Vatican

    There
    have been some interesting, and as always, diverse bits of news about The No
    Asshole Rule
    over the last few weeks:

    1.
    I published an article in The McKinsey
    Quarterly
    a few months back on “Building the Civilized Workplace,” which is based on the book. The folks at McKinsey report that it was the
    most frequently downloaded article last month, as it was the month before.  You can see
    the rankings at The McKinsey Quarterly
    site and also link to an abstract of the article, and register to download it.   

    2. The No
    Asshole Rule
    continues to hang around on some of the best-seller lists. In
    particular, the current issue of BusinessWeek
    lists it as #7 among
    hardcover business books.
       

    3.
    I am giving a talk on the book at the Commonwealth Club this coming Monday
    night, July 9th. There is a
    wine and cheese reception starting at 5:30 and the talk is from 6 to 7. Admission is $18 for non-members and free for
    members. Click here for more
    information and to register in advance.

    4.
    Barry Ritholtz over at The Big Picture seems have used a picture
    of The No Asshole Rule
     cover to ward off nasty people while he
    is on vacation. (Another thanks to Dave
    for pointing this one out). He never actually mentions the book, but has a large
    picture of the cover next to a message that warns:

    I
    will leave the admin work to my able and trusty assistant Ginger. That includes
    dealing with spammers, asshats, and trolls. 

    She
    has instructions to terminate with
    prejudice
    :

    Unpublish
    any impolite or off topic comments;

    Delete
    anything that remotely looks like spam;

    Suspend
    anyone starting a flame war;

    Ban
    all trolls and asshats;

    Show
    no mercy to anyone;

    If
    you find yourself unpublished or banned this week, well, that means you are
    prime proctological material. You have offended her delicate sensibilities, and
    will have to wait until I return to file an appeal.

    This
    use of the cover reminds me of the attorney who reported that she was going to
    display the book in her office to “remind” her colleagues to be nicer to her.

    5. There is a new website called www.sendahole.com. I don’t quite have the
    courage to put the picture of the product on my blog (I know, I know, I am
    being a hypocrite… I talk about assholes, but don’t want to put a picture on my
    blog. Don’t ask me to explain, I am not that rational).

    For
    $7.95 (includes shipping), here is the service they provide:

    Sphincter FactoryTM
    A-holes are made from the finest quality rubber. They measure approximately
    3/4" in diameter and are 1/4" thick, and are pliable, just like the
    real thing! Each A-hole comes packaged individually and has a pithey greeting
    on the back. They are mailed in plain brown envelopes using only the Sphincter
    Factory’s return address. YOUR NAME AND ADDRESS ARE NOT INCLUDED!

    6. My friends over at SuccessFactors wrote me that A gentleman by the name of Eldon
    Romney e-mailed SuccessFactors earlier this week looking to create his own
    "No Assholes" policy for Mensa. He mentioned that he heard about them
    through your book.”
      Mensa is an
    organization for very smart people.  According to Wikipedia, “Mensa accepts individuals who score at or above the 98th
    percentile on certain standardized IQ tests.”
     

    I
    guess – – just like every other organization that I know –- there are some
    problems with demeaning members at Mensa. Eldon is proposing a list of 12 rules that he calls “Rules of Conduct
    for “Enlightened Mensans.” Here they are:

    As an “Enlightened Mensan”:

    1. I will exhibit my passion for
    Mensa membership by showing through my behavior that I value fellow Members.

    2. I will demonstrate respect for
    others: I will be nice, listen to others and respect myself, acting with
    integrity.

    3. While engaging in Mensa
    activities, I will act within legal and ethical boundaries.

    4. Mensa is nothing without other
    members; I will treat others as part of a valued team, acknowledging each
    member’s contributions.

    5. I will strive to improve myself
    and learn from my mistakes and from the suggestions of others.

    6. I will attempt to communicate clearly and honestly when I have something
    to say. When I do not have anything to say, I will feel free to listen.

    7. I will attempt to have fun and
    share my enthusiasm.

    8. I will not be a jerk.

    9. I will not talk negatively or destructively behind someone’s back; I
    will attempt to discuss issues and concepts more than people and personalities.

    10. I realize I have tremendous
    influence for both good and otherwise and that my actions can either help make
    Mensa a wonderful experience or a dismal one. I will attempt to foster
    goodness.

    11. I will attempt to live by these
    rules. If other Mensans fall short of these rules, I will try to speak up and help
    them better themselves; in turn, I will do my best to be open to suggestions
    and even criticism should I not live by these virtues.

    12. I will do my best to be patient
    and kind at Mensa events and elsewhere

    I
    find these all be fascinating, especially #10, as it makes clear how everyone
    should take responsibility for how others experience the organization. This is an important element of implementing
    the no asshole rule in its most effective form.

    I checked
    with Eldon about these rules and to make sure it was OK to talk about them here;
    he replied:

    Please feel free to post whatever you
    would like; please also understand that while I am a member of Mensa and am the
    American Mensa Ombudsman, my list of Rules is currently mine alone and holds no
    official weight within Mensa (at least yet)!  Mensa as an organization holds no opinions,
    but individuals and/or groups within Mensa can and do hold strong opinions. One
    of my strong opinions is that your book is full of insight that Mensans need to
    consider. Hopefully my presentation will help more to do just that!

    7. I gave a talk in late May on “The No Jerk Rule” at
    Stanford, at the Stanford Technology Venture’s weekly “Entrepreneurial Thought
    Leader’s Seminar.” I was interviewed by
    Stanford student and seminar organizer Mike Rothenberg and I fielded numerous
    questions from the audience of about 100. You can listen to or download the seminar here.  In addition, there are many other free MP3’s of other seminars
    on this website, as well as some great video that is organized into short clips. And if you are interested in attending these
    seminars in person, they are held every Wednesday at 4:30 on the Stanford campus
    and are open to the public. Check the STVP
    website
    in late September to see who will be presenting this fall.

    8. The Vatican released what one of my
    correspondent’s described as “the no asshole rule for drivers.” According to the Associated Press, these
    "Ten
    Commandments" for drivers,
    among other things,
      “warned about the
    effects of road rage, saying driving can bring out "primitive"
    behavior in motorists, including "impoliteness, rude gestures, cursing,
    blasphemy, loss of sense of responsibility or deliberate infringement of the
    highway code." 
    If you have
    ever driven in
    Italy ,
    you will know that they need some of these rules, but I am not optimistic that
    they will have much effect.  Indeed, the
    AP reports that these “commandments” provoked substantial cynicism among Italians.

    That
    is it for now; I suspect that the next couple months will be slow with so many
    of us taking vacations, but I will have another update when there are enough
    tidbits for another round-up.

  • A List of Places That Don’t Tolerate Assholes

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    Last week, a reporter asked me if The No Asshole Rule was ever actually used in organizations.  That question motivated me to assemble a diverse list of places where the rule is used or has been used to help sustain civility.  (The picture to the left is CEO  Lars Dalgaard standing next to the "no assholes" sign at SuccessFactors). Finding and studying these examples is important, I believe, because they suggest a host of ways that people can install and spread the rule.   Check out my new post over at Huffington on Places
    That Don’t Tolerate Assholes
    for details, but here is the list (many of which have appeared here in bits and pieces):

    Barclays
    Capital

    The
    Disbarred Lawyer

    Lloyd Gosselink and Perkins
    Coie

    Sterling Foundation
    Management

    Gold’s Gym

    van Aartrijk
    Group

    The Wine
    Buyer

    “Asshole-Free
    Section” in a Bar

    Washington Mutual

    Texas Bible Studies Class

    SuccessFactors

    Arup’s
    “No Dickhead Rule”
     

    If you have more examples, I would love to hear them.  I am especially interested in cases where once nasty places were transformed into civilized places.

  • The “No Dick Rule” and the “Asshole-Free Section”

    I am always looking for examples of how people enforce The No Asshole Rule.  For regular readers of this blog, you’ve heard a lot about SuccessFactors no assholes rule.   In the last week, I’ve come across two other great illustrations, from dramatically different settings.

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    The first came in email from Robert Care (pictured to the left), the CEO of Australian and Asian operations of a multinational engineering consulting firm called ARUP. Mr. Care wrote me that he had ran into the book in Sydney Airport, and reported that his company has a similar rule:

    "I work for a truly wonderful professional services company
    that is truly extraordinary and that is doing really well in many many
    ways.  Three years ago I became the CEO of our Australasian
    operation.  It occurred to me that there was an issue (not just in the
    Australasian part of our operations) that needed to be dealt with."


    "I then heard something in September 2005 that started me thinking, and
    then talking to my close colleagues.  They encouraged me to speak more
    widely in my organisation and eventually we evolved a ‘no dickhead policy’.
    "

    Mr Care sent me some of the documentation that they use to support the rule,
    notably a memo that he wrote in July 2006, called Let’s Talk, which explains
    what the rule means.  He started by explaining how he get the idea:

    "On ‘that day in September’ 2005, the Sydney Swans won the Australian
    Rules Football League (AFL) flag for the first time in 72 years. In the
    euphoria that followed one clear story emerged for me above all else. The
    Swans, in describing how they came to win, captured it with two words: ‘no
    dickheads’. They did not say what it meant, but everyone understood or had
    their own ‘take’ on it. Later statements made it clearer – ‘they played for
    each other’, ‘team spirit’, ‘knowing your role and doing it’ and ‘helping each
    other when that doesn’t work’.."

    Then he goes onto explain what the rule means at ARUP:

    "To me ‘no dickheads’ refers to recruiting and retaining people who
    support and enhance our culture rather than weaken it; it means getting square
    pegs into square holes and round pegs into round holes – the right people for
    the right jobs; it means that we are team players working for each other not
    ourselves; it means that it is not alright to be a bully or abuse people who
    are in less powerful positions; it means that if it doesn’t feel right it
    probably isn’t.

    By the way – the problem is not about being a ‘dickhead’; it is about behaving
    like one. And it is not even about behaving badly on the odd occasion – we’re
    all guilty of that. The real problem is about systematic and continual bad or
    inappropriate behaviour. It is damaging to the people who work with these
    ‘dickheads’, and for the firm as a whole.

    So how do you know if you are behaving like a ‘dickhead’? How about considering
    the impact you have on others? Do other people walk away from interactions with
    you feeling good about themselves, or at least that they have been treated
    fairly, or do they try to avoid interacting with you? Are you understanding
    about other people’s strength and weaknesses and realistic in your
    expectations? Do you enhance others’ self esteem? This is what being a team is
    all about! And we want a team, a very successful team."

    Mr. Care also makes the critical point that the rule is especially important to
    apply to top performers, an essential element in enforcing such rules, as I
    have emphasized many times:

    "OK, so we have said this is how we want it to be. But it is not enough to
    say it, we have to uphold it – and it might be painful. If the ‘dickhead’ is
    also a poor performer then the solution is obvious. The real challenge is when
    an otherwise good or exceptional performer has the problem. What do we do? I
    would argue that we have a duty and obligation to make sure the person knows
    the effect they are having on others. But beyond that, it is only the person
    themselves that can make the change, and they may not try, or may not succeed.
    If that’s the case I believe we should go our separate ways."

    I believe that Mr. Care completely "gets it," and he has a huge
    amount to teach other big companies.  But it also seems that the rule can
    be useful in very small organizations, notably bars and pubs where all that
    alcohol consumption can turn people into (at least temporary) assholes.
    Pam over at Writing,
    Work and Weasels
    (a funny and most insightful blog) described how a
    customer applied the rule one night:

    "Once, at my father’s pub, we had a
    particularly raunchy crowd of drunken, loudmouth idiots. One of our regulars
    took a piece of cardboard from a beer delivery box and a magic marker, and
    scrawled “Asshole-Free Section.” He stuck it on the corner of the bar where we
    were sitting, and we entertained ourselves for an hour or so saying “hey,
    didn’t you bother to read the sign?” to anyone who came to sit with us.

    Too bad we can’t do that at work.

    In a bar, everyone calls everyone else an asshole. That’s because if you spend
    enough time there, you will become one at some point. Your friends will love you
    for it, and everyone else will be glad they’re not you.

    But I’ve always said that in spite of the drunkenness and the mooning, the
    quarrels and brawls and stuff people say that would never have come out of
    their mouths before that third shot, I’ve met more bona-fide assholes at work
    than in the bar. An asshole in a suit and tie is still an asshole, just one
    without an excuse."

    I love the contrast between these two stories. It
    makes me realize that — although jerks may always be with us — so will the urge
    to expel them and drive them away from us!

  • Stanley Bing’s Crazy Boss Quiz

    Fortune columnist Stanley Bing (that is a pseudonym, his real name is Gil Schwartz) has just come out with an updated version of his 1992 book Crazy Bosses, which is is about " The crazy boss in all his guises: the Bully, the Paranoid, the Narcissist, the Wimp, and the self-destructive Disaster Hunter." 

    I was amused and delighted by the online test that he has developed to assess "Is Your Boss a Crazy Boss?." Consider the first of the ten questions:

    1. Your boss calls you…
    a) At a reasonable hour in the morning, after you’ve had time for your muffin.
    b) The moment you get into the office, but basically just to schmooze.
    c) While you’re in the shower
    at 7 a.m., to scream at you for something that was resolved a week ago
    but you never had a chance to tell him about because he was too busy
    screaming at somebody else about something that was resolved the week
    before that.
    d) At 3:30 a.m. just about every night to babble in drunken incoherence into the phone.

    Bing casts his net beyond asshole bosses.  But he talks a lot about different forms of jerks and bullies. So if you combine Bing’s test with the ARSE (Asshole Rating Self-Exam), the checklist that we developed with Guy Kawasaki, and Linkedin to assesses if your future boss is an asshole, and ARSE Mail, there is a growing battery of asshole assessment and management tools out there.  Perhaps the next step is to apply a bit of evidence-based management to these tools, and to figure out when and if they are useful.

    P.S. As I reported earlier, The ARSE Test is now over 100,000 completions! Aaron at Electric Pulp tells me 102,123 this very minute!

    
    
  • How Sperm Banks Enforce “The Rule”

    A fellow academic alerted
    me to an article in the American Sociological
    Review
    by Rene Almeling of the
    University
    of
    California at Los Angeles. It is called Selling
    Genes, Selling Gender: Egg Agencies, Sperm Banks, and the Medical Market in
    Genetic Material.”

    To quote the abstract,
    Drawing on interview and observational data from two egg
    agencies and two sperm banks in the
    United States, this article
    compares how staff recruit, screen, market, and compensate women and men donors.”
      

    The article’s main focus is on the difference
    between how male and female donors are seen and treated by agencies. Although
    all donors are paid, egg agencies focus on how female donors can help families
    and provide them a “gift,” while
    sperm banks “portray
    donation as a job” for men.  A press
    release from the American Sociological Association went on to explain:
    The application process for donors also favors
    what Almeling called “gendered stereotypes of selfless motherhood and distant
    fatherhood.” Although egg donors stood to be handsomely compensated, women who
    indicated there was a financial motive behind their participation were
    routinely rejected in favor of applicants who expressed more altruistic
    motives, such as the desire to “help” infertile couples.’

    Here
    is where The No Asshole Rule comes
    in; note this long quote from a sperm bank manager, who rejected sperm from
    otherwise healthy donors that he disliked. This is the earliest application screening-out of possible assholes I
    have ever encountered:

    Aside from personality, the other thing that makes me fall in
    love with a donor is someone that’s responsible. It is so rare to get someone
    that’s truly responsible, that comes in when they’re supposed to come in, or at
    least has the courtesy to call us and say, “I can’t make it this week, but I’ll
    come in next week twice.” Then of course the second thing that makes him ideal
    is that he has consistently very high [sperm] counts, so I rarely have to toss
    anything on him [i.e., reject his sperm sample]. And then, I guess the third
    thing would be someone that has a great personality, that’s just adorable,
    caring, and sweet. There are donors,
    that their personalities, I think ugh. They have great
    [sperm] counts, they come in when they’re supposed to, but I just don’t
    like them. That’s a personal
    thing,
    and I think, huh, I don’t want more of those babies out in the world
    (emphasis
    added).

    I
    guess it is never too early to start enforcing rule! Although I worry that this manager – and others
    who screen out donors they dislike – are acting on arbitrary rather than
    meaningful differences among donors.

    P.S
    The complete citation is Almeling, Rene,
    Selling
    Genes, Selling Gender: Egg Agencies, Sperm Banks, and the Medical Market in
    Genetic Material.”
      American Sociological Review, 2007, VOL. 72 (June: 319–340), You can read the press release from the American
    Sociological Association here .

  • ARSE Test Passes 100,000 Completions

    The Asshole Rating Self-Exam (Or ARSE test) started as a 24-item self-test in Chapter 4 of The No Asshole Rule.  This chapter is about ‘How to Stop Your Inner Jerk from Getting Out."  It emphasizes that any of us, in the wrong setting, can turn into assholes — in particular, following research on emotional contagion and the behavior changes that occur among people who work for nasty bosses, it emphasizes that if you join a group or company that is knee-deep in assholes, odds are that you will become just like the rest of th jerks around you. The chapter also proposes that — while settings are powerful — there are some people who are more prone to act like jerks regardless of their group or company.  And it makes the point that, if you are worried about being a certified asshole, the first step is realizing that you are an asshole. So, with help from my wife Marina, I developed the 24 item self-test in the book.

    Then Guy Kawasaki and the folks from Electric Pulp took the 24-item test and put online on February 5th, 2007 — just a couple weeks before The No Asshole Rule — was released.  Since then, people have been filling out like the ARSE Test like crazy. I have since received several hundred emails from people bragging that they weren’t assholes, bragging that they were assholes, and expressing concern that — when they took it for a boss or co-worker — that they realized that they were working a flaming asshole. In  a couple recent cases, I had managers write me to ask if i did executive coaching because, after taking the test, they realized that their inner jerk was rearing its head too often. And I have had at least two people write me to say that, after taking the test "for" a boss, they started searching for another job, and were happy to report that people were more civilized in their new workplace.

    I was delighted to get an email from Aaron Mentele of Electric Pulp this morning announcing that ARSE completions had passed 100,000 (100,446), with the final push coming from a post I put up on Huffington.  So the self examination continues!

    Finally, on a serious note I am wary of instant cures of any kind, and the ARSE Test isn’t a scientifically validated test, So please be cautious about putting too much weight on it — use it as just one piece of information.  But I am glad that it has helped some people out there think more deeply about their own behavior and the settings where they work. 

    And I would also caution that, if you do decide that you are a certified asshole and want to stamp out such behavior in yourself and your organization, beware that "recovering assholes" are not always well-suited to this task.  As my teenage son likes to say, "Just because you suffer from an affliction does not make you an expert on it."

  • The No Asshole Rule is a Finalist for a Quill Book Award

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    The Quill Book Awards are sponsored by Publisher’s Weekly and NBC Universal Television Stations. The nominees for books published between July 1, 2006 and June 30th, 2007 were announced last week at BookExpo America (the national trade show for the book industry). The winners in 18 different categories will be announced on September 10th and the awards will be presented on October 22nd at a "gala ceremony" in New York City.  Winners will be determined by "a Voting Board consisting of more than 6,000 booksellers and librarians." I am pleased that The No Asshole Rule is one of the five finalists in the business book category.  The other four are:

    Small Is the New Big: and 183 Other Riffs, Rants, and Remarkable Business Ideas
    Seth Godin; Portfolio

    Women & Money: Owning the Power to Control Your Destiny

    Suze Orman; Random House/Spiegel & Grau

    Send: The Essential Guide to Email for Office and Home
    David Shipley and Will Schwalbe; Alfred A. Knopf

    Chocolates on the Pillow Aren’t Enough: Reinventing the Customer Experience
    Jonathan M. Tisch, Karl Weber; John Wiley & Son

    I am honored to be on this list of great books.  I would also add that, in my biased opinion, the best business book published during this period isn’t on the list: Chip and Dan Heath’s Made to Stick

  • Southern Men and Baseball: Professor Timmerman ‘s Study of Batters Hit By Pitches

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    A few days ago I put up a post on Southerners, Civility, and Cultures of Honor, which pointed to research showing that, although men raised in the Southern United States are generally more polite than those raised in other parts of the country, they are more prone to respond with aggression when they believe that there has been some kind assault on their "honor."   I reviewed a lab experiment from The University of Michigan showing that men from South were far more likely to turn aggressive than men from the North when they were bumped and called an "asshole." 

    This post prompted a dozen comments of all kinds, including at least one Southern man who agreed that it described his behavior.  And it prompted one yesterday from Professor Thomas Timmerman of  Tennessee Technological University. Timmerman just published a study of nearly 30,000 "hit by pitch" events during Major League Baseball Games (drawn from a sample of nearly 5 million at bats) that occurred between 1960 and 1992 and between 2000 and 2004. This research produced some fascinating findings, which are consistent with prior work on the culture of honor .  As Professor Timmerman described it in his comments:

    "Pitchers from the South are not more likely, in general, to hit
    batters; but they are more likely than non-southerners to hit the
    batter who follows a home-run hitter. They are also more likely to hit
    a homerun hitter the next time he comes up to bat. They are also more
    likely to hit batters in retaliation for a hit teammate. Interestingly,
    though, southerners are more likely to hit White batters in these
    situations, not African Americans."   

    In other words,white pitchers born in the South (about 30% of those in this sample) appeared more likely to hit batters on purpose in order to uphold their team’s honor — after one of two  kinds of "affronts:" a home run or a teammate who was hit by a pitch thrown by the other team.  I would also point out that hitting someone on purpose with a baseball (moving perhaps 90 miles an hour) clearly qualifies as an "asshole move" in my book as it is hurts like hell, and clearly is meant to intimidate the target.  And it can be dangerous. Timmerman starts out the article with an incident in 1920 when a pitcher named Carl Mays killed a shortstop named  Ray Chapman  with a pitch.  The quote that opens the article, attributed to Mays, is pretty interesting, as it indicates that intimidation, not injury, was Chapman’s goal: "I threw it at him not to hurt him but just to make him think. It wasn’t a beanball.  It was a thought pitch."

    Timmerman
    I wrote Professor Timmerman to ask WHY he thinks that these findings occurred, and his answers are pretty interesting in light of the culture of honor, and I would add, in light of some of the arguments I’ve made about situations where acting like an asshole can help people win through intimidation. Professor Timmerman (pictured to the left) said:

    Here’s the way I interpret the three different situations I studied

    1) A pitcher gives up a homerun – this threatens his social identity as a competent pitcher, so he hits the homerun hitter the next time he comes up. Southerners are more likely to do this than non-southerners, but mainly if the batter is white. To me this seems consistent with the culture of honor ideas that Southerners try to protect their honor and their social identities more so than non-southerners.

    2) A pitcher gives up a homerun – the next batter is also at greater risk because of the identity threat and also because of the frustration. Again, Southerners are more likely to hit a batter in this situation.

    3) A pitcher’s teammate his hit by the opposing pitcher – failing to retaliate might insinuate that the pitcher is weak and unable to protect his teammates. Again, Southerners are more likely to do this, but mainly if the batter is white.

    He also added some interesting ideas about the racial differences:

    If I had to guess why Southerners are less likely to hit African Americans in these situations, I would offer these two guesses:

    1) Growing up in the South might make Southerners hyper-sensitive about "appearing" racist. Hitting a batter in these situations is more likely to seem intentional, so maybe Southerners don’t want to appear as if they are hitting African Americans on purpose.

    2) Some early research on aggression shows that whites (in general) suppress aggression against African Americans out of fear (i.e., when they believe that African Americans can identify them and retaliate). Maybe Southerners are more afraid than non-southerners that African American batters will charge the mound if they get hit. This could happen if Southerners are more likely to learn stereotypes about African Americans.

    Fascinating stuff, huh?  I guess the upshot, as my colleague (and native Southerner) Steve Barley has told me before, "We are the nicest people on earth until you piss us off."  Apparently that is an evidence-based statement

    There is also an interesting footnote to all this; Professor Timmerman reports that he became interested in studying aggression in baseball after reading a study called "Temper and Temperature on the Diamond," which showed that Major League Pitchers pitchers appear more likely to hit  batters intentionally when it is hot outside.  This study is part of the vast literature on the "heat and aggression hypothesis," which shows that — when it comes to everything from horn honking to murder rates — human beings are more prone to turn nasty when it is hot.  So it isn’t just a myth, a hot day does turn people into assholes. Or, as my colleague Jane Dutton once commented  (I paraphrase, it was a long time ago) "I guess this means that if you are in a bad mood, you should stick your head in the freezer." I will dig up some of the research on heat and aggression, it is fascinating stuff.

    To return to baseball, if you are interested in the implications of baseball for management and organizational life in general, check out Jeff Angus’s blog and his great book Management by Baseball.

    P.S. Professor Timmerman was kind enough to provide me with  complete references for his study and and "Temper and Temperature on the Diamond."

    Timmerman, T.A. (2007). "It was a thought pitch": Personal, situational, and target influences on hit-by-pitch events across time. Journal of Applied Psychology, 92, 876-884

    Reifman, A.S., Larrick, R.P., & Fein, S. (1991). Temper and Temperature on the Diamond: The Heat-Aggression Relationship in Major League Baseball. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 17, 580-585 (1991).