Category: The No Asshole Rule

  • A Dangerous Gift

    At various times, I’ve been tempted to set-up ways so that The No Asshole Rule can be sent as a gift (sometimes anonymously and sometimes not) to send a not-so-subtle message to an asshole boss or co-worker.   I’ve always resisted the temptation, in part, because I worried that if people are already assholes, getting the gift might cause them to go after the messenger, rather than to take it is a sign that they or their organization could be infected with asshole poisoning.  Indeed, research on whistleblowers confirms this "shoot the messenger effect."  I got a hint of this risk some months back, when a woman wrote me that her asshole boss saw the book on her desk, and told her to take it home.  But I was quite dismayed to receive this email today (I print it as it was sent, but have removed some identifying information):

    Dear
    Bob,

    I bought a copy of The No Asshole
    Rule
    at an airport during a business trip. Reading the book, I figured out
    without doubt that I was a victim.

    Since being nominated for a new
    role, I was reporting temporarily to my tormentor’s boss. He is one of the most
    senior human resources executives within a large
    bank. Following more foul play from his direct report, and
    others, I decided to give him your book in the first edition version for
    Christmas. In my card, I wrote that I would like to speak to him about similar
    phenomena as depicted in your book within the context of our human resources
    department.

    He had me fired on the first working
    day of 2008 (a week ago) – without even getting the opportunity to talk. I am
    now in negotiations regarding the terms of my exit – and looking forward to a
    new and less asshole ridden life.

    Alas, I feel compelled to post this email as a warning to others; indeed, it seems that giving some assholes the book as a gift is dangerous because it turns them into even more flaming assholes.

  • No Asshole Rule Round-Up: Most Popular Article in the McKinsey Quarterly in 2007 and Other Tidbits

    1.
    The McKinsey Quarterly announced that
    my article based on The No Asshole Rule was their most popular article in 2007
    (I think this means it was the most downloaded). It is a somewhat censored version, called
    “Building the Civilized Workplace.” You
    can go here to get the article (registration is free). The Quarterly has very wide distribution and
    is read by many people who have the influence to actually implement the rule,
    so I am delighted that the message is being heard by their clients as well as
    within McKinsey, because they have so much influence over senior executives of
    large organizations throughout the world. Here are there top 5 articles for 2007:

    1. Building the civilized workplace

    2. How businesses are using Web 2.0: A McKinsey Global
    Survey

    3. The CEO’s role in leading transformation

    4. The halo effect, and other managerial delusions

    5. Investing in sustainability: An interview with Al Gore
    and David Blood

    2. Fast Company announced their list of
    the top 10 business books of the year, and I was happy to see that, in addition
    to The No Asshole Rule, Chip and Dan
    Heath’s Made to Stick was on the list as well. As I have written here many
    times before, if there ever was a book that deserved the label “instant
    classic,” Made to Stick is it.

    3.
    The India Times, which they tell me is one of the leading newspaper in India,
    also named The No Asshole as one of their top 10 business books of the
    year. I can’t find the URL but here is a pdf:

    Download times_managing_25_dec_2007_best_business_books.pdf

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    4.The
    Russian version is about to appear. I have no idea what the above cover says,
    but it sure is wild.

    5. As I blogged about a few weeks ago, the new issue of the complete lawyer will be on workplace bullies. But you can get the articles already, as
    Victoria Pynchon tells us on her
    blog.
    Victoria’s article is stunning, scary, brave, and remarkably
    insightful. Perhaps the most honest and
    compelling piece I’ve ever read about how the pressures that lawyers face can
    provoke asshole poisioning. Check it out, here is how Victoria describes it:

    “My article Why
    Lawyers Are Unhappy… And Make Others Unhappy, Too
    is a
    personal confessional of workplace misbehavior. In fact, it’s just about
    as personal as you can get without committing professional suicide.
    But hey!  Somebody had
    to fess up and when you’re  the
    jerk in the workplace, it’s you who
    is usually the last to
    know.  As my regular readers know, however, there is a happy ending to
    this one.” 

    6.
    Indeed, if you want some brand new evidence about why lawyers are so uptight,
    check out this story about the lawyers from Morrison & Forester (aka MoFo) who cost their client 1 million dollars
    for filing some papers 1 minute late. (I
    suspect that the firm will be paying, not their clients). See this WSJ
    story.
    I also think it is
    interesting that the MoFo lawyers aren’t getting much sympathy from some of the
    commentors.

    7.
    I have also had readers point me to some interesting stories in the media about
    workplace assholes, including one on called “Easing Angst
    in Business Today (published in
    India), a well-crafted story by Jane Leder (who interviewed me months ago) in
    North Shore Magazine called Emergency
    Exit
    , a story in Voir
    about the French Canadian version of the No Asshole Rule,
    Objectif
    Zéro Chien Sale
    (which means, roughly, “no more dirty dogs”).  Finally, The New York Post listed The No Asshole Rule as one of their  notable books of 2007, but were careful to say that they weren’t all good books.  I am not quite sure how to take that!

    More
    is happening. In particular, I am developing a version of the ARSE (Asshole
    Rating Self-Exam)
    that will be used to assess if, in fact, the client you are
    working for is a certified asshole. If
    you have any ideas about sure signs that a client is, or is going to become, an
    asshole, please let me know.

     

  • 2007 at Work Matters: The Year of the Workplace Asshole

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    I’ve
    always liked the tradition of using this time of year as a chance to reflect. For me, this was the
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    year of The No Asshole Rule, so I
    will devote this post to that one and the next other topics.  I never expected so many people to buy this
    little book about workplace assholes in the United
    States
    , let alone in France,
    Germany,
    and Italy;
    and I was shocked when it won the Quill Award. And the rate at which related stories,
    research, and “asshole management” methods were sent to me – and are sent to me
    now – still astounds me.

    It is hard to
    pick my favorite “asshole-related moments,” but I will try.  I am also weaving in some of my favorite  pictures. The one at the top is from The New York Post (which published a series of related
    stories) and the cry baby bully is from a Reuters story.

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    1.
    I never expected over 130,000 people to complete the ARSE (Asshole-Rating Self
    Exam)
    . A big part of the reason is Guy Kawasaki’s magical touch. The
    stories that people tell me about the ARSE are sometimes funny, and other
    times, kind of scary. Like this one about the guy who quite his job right after
    completing it for his VP,
    who scored 23 out of 24
    . I also enjoyed playing with some other web toys,
    including ARSEmail and the Flying ARSE, and although about 10,000
    people have completed each, neither has quite touched a nerve in the same way
    as the original ARSE. Stay tuned, early
    next year, we will have a new web toy, to help you assess if you have a client
    from hell (or if you are one).  Also, the picture of the bully is by Lisa Haney.  

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    2.
    I received a lot of ideas from readers and fellow bloggers who helped me develop
    and keep refining a set of tips
    for surviving workplace assholes
    . I especially want to thank the government
    worker who showed us the power of keeping “asshole
    diaries”
    to document the behavior of the local bully, and was able to
    triumph in large part because she was able to recruit several others oppressed
    co-workers to do the same, and then present the evidence to their supervisor.
    It reminded me of Arlo Guthrie’s old song Alice’s
    Restaurant
    ; if one person tries to fight back, the organization treats you
    like you are nuts; if a whole bunch fight back together, then the chances that
    you will be taken seriously are a lot higher. And pretty much the same point is supported by Professor Pamela Lutgen-Sandvik’s research on
    fighting back against bullies. (The graphic is from a Value Rich story, which contained pictures designed to be inserted into various pages of The No Asshole Rule; this one is supposed to go on page 119). 

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    3. I received many emails
    and wrote many posts from people who complained about being oppressed by
    assholes, and certainly, as this survey and especially this survey show, there
    are a lot of assholes out there, and a growing body of research documents the
    damage done. But a point that sometimes gets lost is that any of us, under the
    wrong conditions, can turn into at least temporary assholes. Indeed, one of the
    last points of the book is that “assholes are use.”  This is one of the main implications of
    research on power, as I wrote about here. And see this the post
    here to see why there is the strange picture of the guy with an "E" drawn on his head both backwards and forwards below. 

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    I also learned a lot from the over 350 answers
    and comments in response to my question on
    the Linked-in blog
    : " As people become more powerful, there’s a tendency
    for bad behavior to surface. What suggestions do you have for leaders to avoid
    becoming a jerk in the face of rising pressure and demands?"    But I
    thought that the most insightful comment on the challenges of keeping one’s inner jerk in check was David
    Maister’s list of “I’ve been an asshole when.” I applaud David’s honesty and courage.  For better or worse, the things on David’s
    list apply to me pretty well too:

    I got overexcited and overenthused on a topic (I lose my sense of proportion , just keep trying to make my point and don’t let people finish their sentences).
    I got tired.
    Three things went wrong in a row. Two I can handle, but make it three and I lose it.


    I was asked to do more than one thing at a time. I’m not a multitasker, and I get cranky when people interrupt my concentration.


    Igot criticized too directly (I reacted badly).

    I felt like I’m not being treated with respect.

    I was trying too hard to ‘show off.

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    4.
    There were some pretty
    funny moments too. Like the brilliant letter
    to the San Francisco Chronicle
    complaining about the title of my book. Or Mark
    Fortier’s style guide
    for people in the media who interview me, but are squeamish
    about the title. Or the picture to the left from Value Rich that illustrates how assholes breed like rabbits (It is supposed to be inserted on page 66). And the post about the day that the The No Asshole Rule was used in the bible
    studies class
    , I confess, struck me as funny at first, until I realized how
    serious and wise Richard Beck’s application of the ideas were (see my last
    post for more). But the one that made me laugh the hardest was probably the “lovely
    moment in the MBA classroom,”
    passed along by C.K. Gunsalus. Here is the key part:

    We had a lovely moment in class today you might
    appreciate.  We had a guest speaker, who had scanned the syllabus upon
    arriving in the classroom. The speaker said, at one point, something along the lines of "I see you’re
    reading a book by Bob Sutton with a word in the title I simply detest." An unidentified student in the back of the room (there are more than 100 people
    in this class) yelled out:
    "Yeah, I hate the word
    ‘rule’, too,"

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    5.
    Perhaps the most heartening thing I learned was how many organizations were
    already using The No Asshole Rule, or
    similar rules. The "no assholes rule at SuccessFactors got the
    most attention (You can read about in the
    McKinsey Quarterly
    , hear about it on KFOG, or see it on MSNBC). I also liked the The
    No Dickhead Rule at Arup
    and Lou Pepper’s story about how the applied the
    rule during the years he was CEO of Washington Mutual – you can read about
    these and other examples of places with the rule here.  And I was also heartened by the dozens of people who told me that the book
    helped give them courage to quit a job where they had a vile boss or
    co-workers.  I wrote the book to encourage organizations to treat people in more civilized ways and to
    encourage people who are trapped in nasty workplaces to fight back effectively, and failing
    that, find ways to get out if they possibly can.

    Finally,
    I would like to give special thanks to fellow bloggers who wrote such supportive
    things about the book during the past year or so, and sent me so many warm and constructive notes that usually didn’t appear on this blog, but helped my a great deal  Please forgive me if I have left
    you out, I am trying to remember as well as I can. This is a very incomplete list, hundreds of other bloggers have helped me who aren’t mentioned). These include:

    Diego
    at Metacool

    Guy at Change
    the World

    Krishna
    at Thought Clusters

    Gretchen
    at the Happiness Project

    Jeff
    at Management By Baseball

    Pam
    at Escape from Cubicle Nation

    Frank
    over at KnowHR

    Maureen
    at Pink Slip

    Kent
    Blumberg

    Polly LaBarre at Mavericks

    Julie
    at Life-At-The Bar

    David
    Maister

    Sig
    at Thingamy

    Alexander
    at the Chief Happiness Officer

    Todd at 800
    CEO-Read

    The
    Jackson Library Blog

    Lisa at
    the Time Magazine Blog

    Loren
    at the Busybody

    IL Metodo Antistronzi (Italian
    Edition Blog)

    Chuck
    at Third Wave

    Don
    at Audiobook Maven

    Objectif Zero Sale Con  (French Edition Blog)

    Brayden
    at Org.theory.net

    I
    could go on and on, an again, I am sorry
    to those I’ve left out. I appreciate the
    support from everyone, and the criticisms too. On to 2008!


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    P.S. The picture above of a dead fish on a keyboard is from a story about the book in a German magazine gets my vote for the weirdest of them all. 

     

  • The No Asshole Rule Goes to Bible Studies Class: Richard Beck at Experimental Theology Looks Back

    A lot of surprising things happened in response to the publication of The No Asshole Rule. I am putting together a post or two about some of the highlights and biggest lessons that I learned this year.  But perhaps nothing surprised me, or forced me to open my mind more, than experimental psychologist Richard Beck’s use of The No Asshole Rule in a bible studies class in Texas, which he wrote about on his blog Experimental Theology.  Here is Richard’s retrospective on this experience, which is part of his  post on the Best of 2007. I find his comment wonderful and deeply constructive in many ways, and very much in the Christmas spirit:

    #7
    My Bible Class about Bob Sutton’s Book

    No retrospective on 2007 would be complete without facing up to my Most
    Controversial Post of the Year
    . I did a bible class at my church on Dr.
    Sutton’s book and then followed that post up with a series. That post was
    picked up on by Dr. Sutton (initially
    here on his personal blog
    and then later in The Huffington Post
    where he mentions his changing attitudes about Christians in two features found
    here and here.
    Which pleases me in that, if you look at his remarks, it seems I helped
    dismantle some stereotypes about Christians and Christian intellectuals.

    These gains aside however, because I didn’t euphemize and took Dr. Sutton’s
    language as-is (following the lead, as a scholar would, of the Harvard
    Business Review
    who first published Dr. Sutton’s idea), some conservative
    readers have been offended and have written my employer about my Christian
    commitment. The disappointing part for me is that none of these complaints have
    been taken directly to me per Jesus’ instructions in the Sermon on the Mount.
    Which means that the complaints are not Christian, honest, and truth-seeking in
    intent. They are, rather, attempts to use my post as a political tool against
    my university. Which is sad. To those offended by this blog, please e-mail me
    directly for conversation. Also note that my discussion of Dr. Sutton’s book
    had nothing to do with my university as it was a bible class for my church,
    populated with adults and not college students. Thus, if you have any spiritual
    concerns with me on this topic please contact my spiritual overseers, the
    elders of the Highland Church of
    Christ
    . They are the ones accountable for both my spiritual journey as well
    as any teaching conducted under their oversight.

    As a final thought on this subject, a part of the reason (other than its clear
    gospel message) I took up Dr. Sutton’s book was to explore what "Christian
    language" can and should look like. What are the discernment issues
    involved? How do we adjudicate? Is propriety and politeness the main concern?
    But what if, as Dr. Sutton’s book shows, cultural mores are changing? Is this a
    generational issue? If so, should language change to connect with the young
    even if the older (and most established in faith) are offended? These are
    challenging and important issues. How shall we speak to our world? Is the world
    a homogenous crowd allowing only a single form of Christian discourse? Or is
    the world heterogeneous, diverse, and ramified, requiring multiple languages
    each unique given context and audience? In short, all readers here–offended or
    not offended–should pitch in and discuss rather than gripe and
    complain. There is work to be done for the Kingdom! Let’s find out how best to
    do it and support each other in a process–being in but not of the world–that
    necessarily creates different modes of missional living.

    Richard, thank you so much for being so thoughtful and open-minded.  I especially like your call for constructive discussion and argument — it reminds me of one on of my favorite sayings by fellow psychologist Karl Weick: Fight as if you are right, listen as if you are wrong!

  • Asshole Toxic Shock Syndrome in Japan

    I got this scary and
    insightful email earlier in the week. I
    am often asked if The No
    Asshole Rule
    applies in other cultures. The reactions that I’ve received from
    Europe (especially France, Italy, Germany, and the UK), as well as from India,  suggest that the ideas do transfer to at least some cultures. But I have been less sure about Asian countries, so
    this note is particularly interesting. It sounds like, at least in some corners of Japanese business, the ideas strike a nerve.

    I would be especially
    interested to hear comments from other people who work in Japan, or who have
    extensive experience with Japanese companies or business people. Here goes:   

    Dear Bob,

    I am a Tokyo-based HR consultant and executive coach.

    I became aware of the NAR in Feb/07, and received my copy from
    Amazon in March. I read it cover to cover in one sitting, and
    ordered copies for my friends, mostly HR directors and talent
    managers occupying seats in foreign-owned MNC’s. I ‘leaf’ a lot of
    business books, we all do, but NEVER have I seen a book capture the
    popular imagination as did and does the NAR. For the first time, in a
    longtime, we ‘laughed’. After we laughed, we experienced an
    added catharsis in sharing tales of AH behavior (individual and organizational).
    And, this would be AH behavior of a particularly virulent form, what
    happens when:  Western managers bring a simplistic and short-term
    perspective to complex business and cultural challenges; Japanese managers
    utilize ‘ijime’ (bullying) to effect restructuring that would be proscribed by
    a labor code that is very protective of worker rights.

    I scrolled through reader messages on your blog, and tragic as
    many of these stories are, I could not find one that compares to the
    image of a Japanese manager hanging dead in the company stairwell,
    his final message to his AH boss. (That boss popped up on my
    screen again recently with regard to another incident in another
    company.) I could tick off dozens of these stories; a few end in death; a
    significant number end in long-term depression leaves, derailed careers,
    derailed lives.

    The ‘treatment’ of workplace depression, what I now call,
    ‘Asshole Toxic Shock Syndrome’ (AHTSS) is big business in Japan. I think this
    is opportunistic and ‘bad’ business: opportunistic because it does not address
    the problem, but shifts the focus to treatment of its ‘victims’;
    bad because Japan is talent-starved, and its organizations need to retain
    and develop every warm body they can get their hands on. Under ‘bad’ I would also subsume diversity,
    inclusion and other ‘why can’t we all just get along’ initiatives that spill
    forth from the U.S. It seems to me the
    better question is:

    “Why can’t we ensure civility in the workplace? Why are Japanese streets the safest in the
    world, and its work environments becoming some of the more lethal?”

    I began experimenting with the NAR as part of my coaching
    practice, and thus far, have found two applications:

    1) To assist clients suffering from ‘AHTSS’ to understand that
    it is ‘not them’. One such client,
    a particularly plucky soul, bought a dozen copies and seeded them
    throughout her organization. She, an expatriate
    manager leading a multi-cultural team in a European MNC, reported that the NAR
    transcends culture, was an ‘idea’ the diverse constituents of her team could
    readily agree upon. And, this took the NAR into the realm of OD. That the book
    is written in simple language, absent jargon, and printed in a large typeface
    means Japanese and other ESL folks can read it too. You book gained greater organizational access
    than any consultant could.

    2) To treat AH behavior, ’cause wouldn’t you bet my coaching
    practice is full of ‘0-empathy technocrats’ who are challenged to manage
    other human beings.  I have explored this application VERY
    tentatively, as one would. I am
    pleased to report that by calling a spade a spade, as in "[Client], you
    are a very talented fellow, but your AH behavior is undermining your ability to
    get things done" has wrought miracles. When I stopped equivocating, they started listening! And, a few have taken the NAR to heart and
    are practicing.

    The NAR has transformed my practice, and convinced me that
    seemingly intractable problems are amenable to common sense solutions.

    Again,
    I invite comments. It also sounds like
    this HR consultant is employing some of the techniques suggested in Crucial
    Conversations
    and Taming
    the Abrasive Manager
    , both excellent books.

  • Watch the Bad Jokes: Sallie Mae CEO Shows How They Can Hurt A Company

    Humor and teasing certainly have their place in organizational life.  But, as researchers who study humor tell us, jokes and teasing can be dangerous — and are prone to backfire — when they are used to convey hostile messages.  In particular, teasing can hurt targets (teasing is used as an "insult delivery system" by many workplace assholes).   And nasty jokes can also backfire and make a person — especially a leader — come across as angry, unwilling to accept responsibility, and out of control.

    I got a note from a reader this morning about this New York Times story on After Chief Holds a Chat, Sallie Mae Stock Plunges.  It demonstrates the danger of a bad joke (and of losing your temper at the wrong time). Here is the opening:

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    "You known the conference call is going badly when the chief
    executive tells shareholders they will have to walk through a metal
    detector the next time they meet.

    The joke, delivered on Wednesday by Albert L. Lord, the chief executive of Sallie Mae,
    flopped. Mr. Lord had instigated the conference call to reassure
    investors and analysts alarmed by the deteriorating financial health of
    the student loan giant. Instead, his gruff and at times profane performance baffled investors and sent Sallie Mae stock into a tailspin."

    It sounds to me like Mr. Lord was seen as an asshole, and one that was lashing out at others, rather than using his energy to fix Sallie Mae and to portray the company in the best possible light (standard leadership responsibilities). 

    This story reminds me of an incident that happened to Neal Patterson, CEO of the Cerner Company in 2001. Patterson wrote a pretty nasty email to the top 400 people in the company that, among other things, threatened layoffs and pay cuts if people didn’t start working longer hours.  The stock plunged over 20% in a few days.  BUT to Patterson’s credit, he apologized appropriately, and also helped repair Cerner’s reputation and his own by laughing at himself. Taken together, these incidents do suggest that being seen as an asshole can hurt a company’s stock price, but they also show that it is possible to recover from such gaffs if management apologizes and goes onto demonstrate leadership skill.

    As a final note, although it sounds like Mr. Lord had a bad day, I also feel quite a bit of sympathy for him as it is impossible to do a job like that without making mistakes, and we all have bad days.  Plus leading a company under those conditions is no fun at all.  So my view is that, rather than just slamming the guy and the company, let’s give them a few months to turn things around, as the best attitude toward failure and setbacks is, I believe, to "forgive and remember."

  • Special Issue on Workplace Bullies at The Complete Lawyer

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    Victoria Pynchon over at Settle It Now offers a sneak preview of the next issue of The Complete Lawyer,which focuses on workplace bullies. I’ve commented before on this blog about how much interest there has been in The No Asshole Rule and workplace bullying more generally among lawyers; the first publication to print an excerpt from the book was The American Lawyer, I’ve given "no asshole" talks to several groups of lawyers including the Stanford legal department and the lawyers and clients of Littler Mendelson.  I’ve written about law firms that have the rule, as well as an asshole infested law firm, and the troubling times at Holland & Knight (a law firm that had once bragged about its "no jerk rule," but then suffered a deluge of bad publicity about alleged sexual harassment problems).

    The articles in this issue include:

    Why
    Lawyers Are Unhappy… And Make Others Unhappy, Too
      by Victoria Pynchon,
    an attorney and mediator. 

    How to Spot and Deal with Jerks by Julie Fleming
    Brown
    , author
    of the 
    Life
    at the Bar
    blog

    Create a Blueprint for a Bullying Free Workplace by Gary Namie, North America’s foremost authority on
    Workplace Bullying

    Defining and Legislating Bullying by Garry
    Mathiason
    , vice
    chair of
    Littler
    Mendelson
    , and,
    according to the National Law Journal, one of the 100 most
    influential attorneys in the nation.

    Yes, There are Ways to Reform Workplace Jerks by Employment Practices
    Specialist
     Allison
    West

    The
    No Asshole Rule

    by
    Robert
    Sutton
    (This is an
    edited and updated excerpt from the book)

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    There is a lot of
    good stuff here; and most of it doesn’t focus on law firms, so if you have
    general interest in workplace jerks – the damage they cause, how to manage
    them, how to reform them, and the legal implications, this issue provides efficient
    “one stop shopping.”

  • ARSE Test: Over 130,000 Completions

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    I got an email for from Aaron over at Electric Pulp reporting that 130,714 have completed the Asshole Rating Self-Exam (or ARSE Test) since we first posted it on Guy Kawasaki’s blog last February.  So the self-examination continues. If you haven’t done so, take the test and see if you are a full-blown or borderline certified asshole, or not an asshole at all.

    P.S. So, one of the strangest effects of the ARSE is that — one more then a dozen occasions now — I’ve met people who introduced themselves to me with both their name and ARSE score, so something like "Hi, I am Cindy, and I am a 4."  It has happened often enough that I no longer ask what the number means.  And I have had dozens of emails where people tell me their number, most recently from a guy who I found pretty rude, but who argued that he scored only a 3 on the ARSE and thus couldn’t possibly be an asshole!

  • We Don’t Want You Unless You Are Rich Or Look Like You Are Going to Get Rich: Elitist Social Networking at Doostang

     

    That
    wasn’t exactly what the invitation to be friends with someone at Doostang said, but that seemed to be the unstated
    subtext. I was disgusted to get this invitation yesterday, which appears
    to be from a legitimate start-up. As a wise
    venture capitalist once told me, “start-ups are like cockroaches, if you see
    one, there are usually hundreds more just like it.” So I suspect that we will see more social networking firms aimed at linking together the best, brightest, and snootiest people in the online world.

    Here
    is what the invitation said (with the person’s name and invitation removed – someone I don’t think
    I’ve ever met):

    I’ve requested to add you as a friend on Doostang, an invite-only
    career community started at Harvard, Stanford, and MIT. You can use Doostang to
    find a job or internship, network, and access valuable career information from
    peers and industry professionals.

    Doostang members have successfully received offers from: Goldman
    Sachs, Facebook, HBO, McKinsey, Google, Apple, Bill and Melinda Gates
    Foundation, Draper Fisher Jurveston, Saatchi & Saatchi, NBC, Morgan
    Stanley, Chanel, Summit Partners, U.S. Congress, Conde Nast, Nike, D.E. Shaw,
    World Bank, and hundreds more…

    It sounds like I am not of sufficient social stature to join
    Doonstang anyway. I wonder if they would reject me because I never had a job
    offer from any of those companies, and I went to UC Berkeley and The University
    of Michigan rather than those elite private schools. And they would probably reject
    me for sure when they found out that I went to a community college for three
    years because I got such poor grades in high school. More seriously, I realize that there are
    elitist networks, and I am probably part of some. But the sheer arrogance of
    this, as well as what seems to be a barrier to entry for people who aren’t of sufficient
    status, makes my stomach turn. Their motto is "where talent lives,” but perhaps
    they should add “and where the unwashed masses can never live.”

    For reasons that I can’t explain, it all reminds of my favorite
    indicator that we are about to make a really dumb decision at Stanford. When someone says “after all, we are
    Stanford,” I always take it as a sign that we are about to do something that
    has no logical or factual basis, and is probably elitist as well. It is as if being part of such an elite
    institution anoints us with magical powers that that make even the most idiotic
    decision turn out well. Perhaps I am
    overreacting, but the claim (see their website)
    that they are an “invite only community career community that connects top
    talent and leading employers,” followed by logos of various elite companies,
    made my stomach turn.

    Am I being too sensitive? Or
    do others agree that this in bad taste?

    P.S. Ironically, they list Facebook as one of the elitist
    companies. It is hard to get a job at Facebook, but their success, I would
    argue, is happening partly because they aren’t elitist at all about who can  join.

  • CIO Insight Picks The No Asshole Rule as a Top 10 Book for 2007

    Cio_insight

    I was delighted to find about this story this morning.  You can see there full list here;  I was especially pleased to see that they picked Jeff Pfeffer’s What Were They Thinking, as it is a fantastic book that has not received enough attention.  You can read the CIO Insight interview I did about the book here; in addition, a couple years before The No Asshole Rule was published, I wrote a column about the (then) surprising reactions I go to my initial short Harvard Business Review essay, where I developed some of the ideas a bit further; it is called Nasty People — a mighty nice title, I always thought.