The Effects of Asshole Bosses on Victim’s Familes, Friends, and Partners: Have You Suffered or Seen Collateral Damage?

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I wrote a bit in The No Asshole Rule about how, when an employee has an asshole boss, the employee's physical and mental health not only suffers, the stress also has a ripple effect on those who are closest to the victim. There is some research on this, notably by Pamela Lutgen-Sandvik. And I have had several stories sent to me over the years from spouses of victims who have suffered collateral damage, such as a woman who wrote me that her husband became distant from her and her kids after he got a new boss who constantly insulted and belittled him. My sense is that such ripple effects are prevalent and strong, but I don't quite have a full sense of the different ways that they play out. I would be most curious if people who have been in this situation (or close to one) could describe how these such ripple effects unfolded and felt. I'd also be curious about what you've learned about coping with such situations.

Please either leave a comment below, or send me an email by clicking on the "Email me" link in the upper left hand corner you prefer (I promise not to post it or write about it anyplace without your permission). Thanks so much much, this is an important topic and I feel like I don't understand it as well as I should.

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91 responses to “The Effects of Asshole Bosses on Victim’s Familes, Friends, and Partners: Have You Suffered or Seen Collateral Damage?”

July 18, 2009

Todd Fray

I once had a very intense job as a floor broker in Chicago. I enjoyed the job for years until I was assigned to service an abusive trader who had a direct line to our trading desk. Over the course of one year I completely lost my enthusiasm for a profession I had once loved. The verbal abuse was constant and his favorite term for me was “you incompetent piece of shit”. I developed a case of bronchitis that I just could not seem to shake. The remarkable thing to me was that I stopped coughing and my lungs cleared WHILE I WAS DRIVING TO A NEW JOB about 6 hours from Chicago. I could feel the stress and anxiety just leaving my body. I will never forget it.

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July 18, 2009

Todd Fray

I once had a very intense job as a floor broker in Chicago. I enjoyed the job for years until I was assigned to service an abusive trader who had a direct line to our trading desk. Over the course of one year I completely lost my enthusiasm for a profession I had once loved. The verbal abuse was constant and his favorite term for me was “you incompetent piece of shit”. I developed a case of bronchitis that I just could not seem to shake. The remarkable thing to me was that I stopped coughing and my lungs cleared WHILE I WAS DRIVING TO A NEW JOB about 6 hours from Chicago. I could feel the stress and anxiety just leaving my body. I will never forget it.

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July 18, 2009

Todd Fray

I once had a very intense job as a floor broker in Chicago. I enjoyed the job for years until I was assigned to service an abusive trader who had a direct line to our trading desk. Over the course of one year I completely lost my enthusiasm for a profession I had once loved. The verbal abuse was constant and his favorite term for me was “you incompetent piece of shit”. I developed a case of bronchitis that I just could not seem to shake. The remarkable thing to me was that I stopped coughing and my lungs cleared WHILE I WAS DRIVING TO A NEW JOB about 6 hours from Chicago. I could feel the stress and anxiety just leaving my body. I will never forget it.

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July 18, 2009

Todd Fray

I once had a very intense job as a floor broker in Chicago. I enjoyed the job for years until I was assigned to service an abusive trader who had a direct line to our trading desk. Over the course of one year I completely lost my enthusiasm for a profession I had once loved. The verbal abuse was constant and his favorite term for me was “you incompetent piece of shit”. I developed a case of bronchitis that I just could not seem to shake. The remarkable thing to me was that I stopped coughing and my lungs cleared WHILE I WAS DRIVING TO A NEW JOB about 6 hours from Chicago. I could feel the stress and anxiety just leaving my body. I will never forget it.

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July 18, 2009

Todd Fray

I once had a very intense job as a floor broker in Chicago. I enjoyed the job for years until I was assigned to service an abusive trader who had a direct line to our trading desk. Over the course of one year I completely lost my enthusiasm for a profession I had once loved. The verbal abuse was constant and his favorite term for me was “you incompetent piece of shit”. I developed a case of bronchitis that I just could not seem to shake. The remarkable thing to me was that I stopped coughing and my lungs cleared WHILE I WAS DRIVING TO A NEW JOB about 6 hours from Chicago. I could feel the stress and anxiety just leaving my body. I will never forget it.

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July 18, 2009

Todd Fray

I once had a very intense job as a floor broker in Chicago. I enjoyed the job for years until I was assigned to service an abusive trader who had a direct line to our trading desk. Over the course of one year I completely lost my enthusiasm for a profession I had once loved. The verbal abuse was constant and his favorite term for me was “you incompetent piece of shit”. I developed a case of bronchitis that I just could not seem to shake. The remarkable thing to me was that I stopped coughing and my lungs cleared WHILE I WAS DRIVING TO A NEW JOB about 6 hours from Chicago. I could feel the stress and anxiety just leaving my body. I will never forget it.

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July 18, 2009

Todd Fray

I once had a very intense job as a floor broker in Chicago. I enjoyed the job for years until I was assigned to service an abusive trader who had a direct line to our trading desk. Over the course of one year I completely lost my enthusiasm for a profession I had once loved. The verbal abuse was constant and his favorite term for me was “you incompetent piece of shit”. I developed a case of bronchitis that I just could not seem to shake. The remarkable thing to me was that I stopped coughing and my lungs cleared WHILE I WAS DRIVING TO A NEW JOB about 6 hours from Chicago. I could feel the stress and anxiety just leaving my body. I will never forget it.

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July 19, 2009

Pratap Nambiar

I had an experience where a colleague was so obsessed with not leaving a boss who was doing everything he could to get him to go, that he ended up commiting suicide. His family had not supported him adequately and he felt compelled to stay and fight it out but it was always a losing battle. I could have saved him if only I had known. This incident had a deep impact on me and I have now dropped out of the rat race and have become a performance coach. I help CEOs and other C level executives maximise their potential. It is an extremely rewarding journey and who knows, I may be saving lives!
Pratap Nambiar
CEO Thought Perfect Pte Ltd
http://www.thoughtperfect.com

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July 19, 2009

Pratap Nambiar

I had an experience where a colleague was so obsessed with not leaving a boss who was doing everything he could to get him to go, that he ended up commiting suicide. His family had not supported him adequately and he felt compelled to stay and fight it out but it was always a losing battle. I could have saved him if only I had known. This incident had a deep impact on me and I have now dropped out of the rat race and have become a performance coach. I help CEOs and other C level executives maximise their potential. It is an extremely rewarding journey and who knows, I may be saving lives!
Pratap Nambiar
CEO Thought Perfect Pte Ltd
http://www.thoughtperfect.com

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July 19, 2009

Pratap Nambiar

I had an experience where a colleague was so obsessed with not leaving a boss who was doing everything he could to get him to go, that he ended up commiting suicide. His family had not supported him adequately and he felt compelled to stay and fight it out but it was always a losing battle. I could have saved him if only I had known. This incident had a deep impact on me and I have now dropped out of the rat race and have become a performance coach. I help CEOs and other C level executives maximise their potential. It is an extremely rewarding journey and who knows, I may be saving lives!
Pratap Nambiar
CEO Thought Perfect Pte Ltd
http://www.thoughtperfect.com

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July 19, 2009

Pratap Nambiar

I had an experience where a colleague was so obsessed with not leaving a boss who was doing everything he could to get him to go, that he ended up commiting suicide. His family had not supported him adequately and he felt compelled to stay and fight it out but it was always a losing battle. I could have saved him if only I had known. This incident had a deep impact on me and I have now dropped out of the rat race and have become a performance coach. I help CEOs and other C level executives maximise their potential. It is an extremely rewarding journey and who knows, I may be saving lives!
Pratap Nambiar
CEO Thought Perfect Pte Ltd
http://www.thoughtperfect.com

Reply
July 19, 2009

Pratap Nambiar

I had an experience where a colleague was so obsessed with not leaving a boss who was doing everything he could to get him to go, that he ended up commiting suicide. His family had not supported him adequately and he felt compelled to stay and fight it out but it was always a losing battle. I could have saved him if only I had known. This incident had a deep impact on me and I have now dropped out of the rat race and have become a performance coach. I help CEOs and other C level executives maximise their potential. It is an extremely rewarding journey and who knows, I may be saving lives!
Pratap Nambiar
CEO Thought Perfect Pte Ltd
http://www.thoughtperfect.com

Reply
July 19, 2009

Pratap Nambiar

I had an experience where a colleague was so obsessed with not leaving a boss who was doing everything he could to get him to go, that he ended up commiting suicide. His family had not supported him adequately and he felt compelled to stay and fight it out but it was always a losing battle. I could have saved him if only I had known. This incident had a deep impact on me and I have now dropped out of the rat race and have become a performance coach. I help CEOs and other C level executives maximise their potential. It is an extremely rewarding journey and who knows, I may be saving lives!
Pratap Nambiar
CEO Thought Perfect Pte Ltd
http://www.thoughtperfect.com

Reply
July 19, 2009

Pratap Nambiar

I had an experience where a colleague was so obsessed with not leaving a boss who was doing everything he could to get him to go, that he ended up commiting suicide. His family had not supported him adequately and he felt compelled to stay and fight it out but it was always a losing battle. I could have saved him if only I had known. This incident had a deep impact on me and I have now dropped out of the rat race and have become a performance coach. I help CEOs and other C level executives maximise their potential. It is an extremely rewarding journey and who knows, I may be saving lives!
Pratap Nambiar
CEO Thought Perfect Pte Ltd
http://www.thoughtperfect.com

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July 20, 2009

Ergoboy

I’ve commented before about the asshole narcissist of a boss that I once had. Some of the ripple effects for me and my family:
– Once I got home, I had to unload, and every night became a bitch session that my wife had to listen to. It went all through dinner, and generally lasted 2 hours.
– I often awoke in the middle of the night. I couldn’t get back to sleep because of internal analysis of the situation.
– My family got to witness fear and paranoia overtake me.
– Free time was no longer recreation time. It became job search time. Vacation days became interview days. When my wife would ask me to do something with her, I would explode at her and have to reiterate that I had to do everything I could to prepare for whatever job was on the horizon.
– I became incredibly demotivated. I forgot how to do my job, and figured, “what’s the point?”
– I had to attend counseling every week just to cope and get through the week. This provided a long term benefit for the family, but it was still humiliating to have to visit a counselor due to work.
– I became indifferent to my once beloved profession. I now work for an awesome company and have great mentors and bosses, but I just don’t care about what I do like I once did. It is detrimental to my performance. Its like I lost a piece of my soul. I’m not sure how to reclaim that passion again.

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July 20, 2009

Ergoboy

I’ve commented before about the asshole narcissist of a boss that I once had. Some of the ripple effects for me and my family:
– Once I got home, I had to unload, and every night became a bitch session that my wife had to listen to. It went all through dinner, and generally lasted 2 hours.
– I often awoke in the middle of the night. I couldn’t get back to sleep because of internal analysis of the situation.
– My family got to witness fear and paranoia overtake me.
– Free time was no longer recreation time. It became job search time. Vacation days became interview days. When my wife would ask me to do something with her, I would explode at her and have to reiterate that I had to do everything I could to prepare for whatever job was on the horizon.
– I became incredibly demotivated. I forgot how to do my job, and figured, “what’s the point?”
– I had to attend counseling every week just to cope and get through the week. This provided a long term benefit for the family, but it was still humiliating to have to visit a counselor due to work.
– I became indifferent to my once beloved profession. I now work for an awesome company and have great mentors and bosses, but I just don’t care about what I do like I once did. It is detrimental to my performance. Its like I lost a piece of my soul. I’m not sure how to reclaim that passion again.

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July 20, 2009

Ergoboy

I’ve commented before about the asshole narcissist of a boss that I once had. Some of the ripple effects for me and my family:
– Once I got home, I had to unload, and every night became a bitch session that my wife had to listen to. It went all through dinner, and generally lasted 2 hours.
– I often awoke in the middle of the night. I couldn’t get back to sleep because of internal analysis of the situation.
– My family got to witness fear and paranoia overtake me.
– Free time was no longer recreation time. It became job search time. Vacation days became interview days. When my wife would ask me to do something with her, I would explode at her and have to reiterate that I had to do everything I could to prepare for whatever job was on the horizon.
– I became incredibly demotivated. I forgot how to do my job, and figured, “what’s the point?”
– I had to attend counseling every week just to cope and get through the week. This provided a long term benefit for the family, but it was still humiliating to have to visit a counselor due to work.
– I became indifferent to my once beloved profession. I now work for an awesome company and have great mentors and bosses, but I just don’t care about what I do like I once did. It is detrimental to my performance. Its like I lost a piece of my soul. I’m not sure how to reclaim that passion again.

Reply
July 20, 2009

Ergoboy

I’ve commented before about the asshole narcissist of a boss that I once had. Some of the ripple effects for me and my family:
– Once I got home, I had to unload, and every night became a bitch session that my wife had to listen to. It went all through dinner, and generally lasted 2 hours.
– I often awoke in the middle of the night. I couldn’t get back to sleep because of internal analysis of the situation.
– My family got to witness fear and paranoia overtake me.
– Free time was no longer recreation time. It became job search time. Vacation days became interview days. When my wife would ask me to do something with her, I would explode at her and have to reiterate that I had to do everything I could to prepare for whatever job was on the horizon.
– I became incredibly demotivated. I forgot how to do my job, and figured, “what’s the point?”
– I had to attend counseling every week just to cope and get through the week. This provided a long term benefit for the family, but it was still humiliating to have to visit a counselor due to work.
– I became indifferent to my once beloved profession. I now work for an awesome company and have great mentors and bosses, but I just don’t care about what I do like I once did. It is detrimental to my performance. Its like I lost a piece of my soul. I’m not sure how to reclaim that passion again.

Reply
July 20, 2009

Ergoboy

I’ve commented before about the asshole narcissist of a boss that I once had. Some of the ripple effects for me and my family:
– Once I got home, I had to unload, and every night became a bitch session that my wife had to listen to. It went all through dinner, and generally lasted 2 hours.
– I often awoke in the middle of the night. I couldn’t get back to sleep because of internal analysis of the situation.
– My family got to witness fear and paranoia overtake me.
– Free time was no longer recreation time. It became job search time. Vacation days became interview days. When my wife would ask me to do something with her, I would explode at her and have to reiterate that I had to do everything I could to prepare for whatever job was on the horizon.
– I became incredibly demotivated. I forgot how to do my job, and figured, “what’s the point?”
– I had to attend counseling every week just to cope and get through the week. This provided a long term benefit for the family, but it was still humiliating to have to visit a counselor due to work.
– I became indifferent to my once beloved profession. I now work for an awesome company and have great mentors and bosses, but I just don’t care about what I do like I once did. It is detrimental to my performance. Its like I lost a piece of my soul. I’m not sure how to reclaim that passion again.

Reply
July 20, 2009

Ergoboy

I’ve commented before about the asshole narcissist of a boss that I once had. Some of the ripple effects for me and my family:
– Once I got home, I had to unload, and every night became a bitch session that my wife had to listen to. It went all through dinner, and generally lasted 2 hours.
– I often awoke in the middle of the night. I couldn’t get back to sleep because of internal analysis of the situation.
– My family got to witness fear and paranoia overtake me.
– Free time was no longer recreation time. It became job search time. Vacation days became interview days. When my wife would ask me to do something with her, I would explode at her and have to reiterate that I had to do everything I could to prepare for whatever job was on the horizon.
– I became incredibly demotivated. I forgot how to do my job, and figured, “what’s the point?”
– I had to attend counseling every week just to cope and get through the week. This provided a long term benefit for the family, but it was still humiliating to have to visit a counselor due to work.
– I became indifferent to my once beloved profession. I now work for an awesome company and have great mentors and bosses, but I just don’t care about what I do like I once did. It is detrimental to my performance. Its like I lost a piece of my soul. I’m not sure how to reclaim that passion again.

Reply
July 20, 2009

Ergoboy

I’ve commented before about the asshole narcissist of a boss that I once had. Some of the ripple effects for me and my family:
– Once I got home, I had to unload, and every night became a bitch session that my wife had to listen to. It went all through dinner, and generally lasted 2 hours.
– I often awoke in the middle of the night. I couldn’t get back to sleep because of internal analysis of the situation.
– My family got to witness fear and paranoia overtake me.
– Free time was no longer recreation time. It became job search time. Vacation days became interview days. When my wife would ask me to do something with her, I would explode at her and have to reiterate that I had to do everything I could to prepare for whatever job was on the horizon.
– I became incredibly demotivated. I forgot how to do my job, and figured, “what’s the point?”
– I had to attend counseling every week just to cope and get through the week. This provided a long term benefit for the family, but it was still humiliating to have to visit a counselor due to work.
– I became indifferent to my once beloved profession. I now work for an awesome company and have great mentors and bosses, but I just don’t care about what I do like I once did. It is detrimental to my performance. Its like I lost a piece of my soul. I’m not sure how to reclaim that passion again.

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July 21, 2009

Karyn

I read a newspaper article about ‘vicarious trauma’ affecting health care workers.
The same theory has been applied to other “helper” fields, like advocates for domestic violence victims and advocates for children.
I made my fiance read the article because I just knew that was part of my problem with my job. (Difficult clients facing terrible problems plus an asshole boss equals trauma for sure!)
He said he often experienced many symptoms of vicarious trauma after I had a particularly bad day at work. I felt terrible that this was happening. Why would I do that to someone I love?
I am working very hard — with help from your book/blog and Gretchin Rubin’s Happiness Project among other sources — to make sure I don’t bring the bullshit home with me anymore.
I’m also working on a plan to escape not only this job, but the legal profession all together. Just having a plan to work on makes me feel better.
I have developed other outlets to work through this stuff so I’m not dumping on him all the time. It seems to be working! The past year or so has been a lot better. (hooray!)
The research on vicarious trauma is out there and I think it applies to the family and friends of people stuck in terrible jobs.

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July 21, 2009

Karyn

I read a newspaper article about ‘vicarious trauma’ affecting health care workers.
The same theory has been applied to other “helper” fields, like advocates for domestic violence victims and advocates for children.
I made my fiance read the article because I just knew that was part of my problem with my job. (Difficult clients facing terrible problems plus an asshole boss equals trauma for sure!)
He said he often experienced many symptoms of vicarious trauma after I had a particularly bad day at work. I felt terrible that this was happening. Why would I do that to someone I love?
I am working very hard — with help from your book/blog and Gretchin Rubin’s Happiness Project among other sources — to make sure I don’t bring the bullshit home with me anymore.
I’m also working on a plan to escape not only this job, but the legal profession all together. Just having a plan to work on makes me feel better.
I have developed other outlets to work through this stuff so I’m not dumping on him all the time. It seems to be working! The past year or so has been a lot better. (hooray!)
The research on vicarious trauma is out there and I think it applies to the family and friends of people stuck in terrible jobs.

Reply
July 21, 2009

Karyn

I read a newspaper article about ‘vicarious trauma’ affecting health care workers.
The same theory has been applied to other “helper” fields, like advocates for domestic violence victims and advocates for children.
I made my fiance read the article because I just knew that was part of my problem with my job. (Difficult clients facing terrible problems plus an asshole boss equals trauma for sure!)
He said he often experienced many symptoms of vicarious trauma after I had a particularly bad day at work. I felt terrible that this was happening. Why would I do that to someone I love?
I am working very hard — with help from your book/blog and Gretchin Rubin’s Happiness Project among other sources — to make sure I don’t bring the bullshit home with me anymore.
I’m also working on a plan to escape not only this job, but the legal profession all together. Just having a plan to work on makes me feel better.
I have developed other outlets to work through this stuff so I’m not dumping on him all the time. It seems to be working! The past year or so has been a lot better. (hooray!)
The research on vicarious trauma is out there and I think it applies to the family and friends of people stuck in terrible jobs.

Reply
July 21, 2009

Karyn

I read a newspaper article about ‘vicarious trauma’ affecting health care workers.
The same theory has been applied to other “helper” fields, like advocates for domestic violence victims and advocates for children.
I made my fiance read the article because I just knew that was part of my problem with my job. (Difficult clients facing terrible problems plus an asshole boss equals trauma for sure!)
He said he often experienced many symptoms of vicarious trauma after I had a particularly bad day at work. I felt terrible that this was happening. Why would I do that to someone I love?
I am working very hard — with help from your book/blog and Gretchin Rubin’s Happiness Project among other sources — to make sure I don’t bring the bullshit home with me anymore.
I’m also working on a plan to escape not only this job, but the legal profession all together. Just having a plan to work on makes me feel better.
I have developed other outlets to work through this stuff so I’m not dumping on him all the time. It seems to be working! The past year or so has been a lot better. (hooray!)
The research on vicarious trauma is out there and I think it applies to the family and friends of people stuck in terrible jobs.

Reply
July 21, 2009

Karyn

I read a newspaper article about ‘vicarious trauma’ affecting health care workers.
The same theory has been applied to other “helper” fields, like advocates for domestic violence victims and advocates for children.
I made my fiance read the article because I just knew that was part of my problem with my job. (Difficult clients facing terrible problems plus an asshole boss equals trauma for sure!)
He said he often experienced many symptoms of vicarious trauma after I had a particularly bad day at work. I felt terrible that this was happening. Why would I do that to someone I love?
I am working very hard — with help from your book/blog and Gretchin Rubin’s Happiness Project among other sources — to make sure I don’t bring the bullshit home with me anymore.
I’m also working on a plan to escape not only this job, but the legal profession all together. Just having a plan to work on makes me feel better.
I have developed other outlets to work through this stuff so I’m not dumping on him all the time. It seems to be working! The past year or so has been a lot better. (hooray!)
The research on vicarious trauma is out there and I think it applies to the family and friends of people stuck in terrible jobs.

Reply
July 21, 2009

Karyn

I read a newspaper article about ‘vicarious trauma’ affecting health care workers.
The same theory has been applied to other “helper” fields, like advocates for domestic violence victims and advocates for children.
I made my fiance read the article because I just knew that was part of my problem with my job. (Difficult clients facing terrible problems plus an asshole boss equals trauma for sure!)
He said he often experienced many symptoms of vicarious trauma after I had a particularly bad day at work. I felt terrible that this was happening. Why would I do that to someone I love?
I am working very hard — with help from your book/blog and Gretchin Rubin’s Happiness Project among other sources — to make sure I don’t bring the bullshit home with me anymore.
I’m also working on a plan to escape not only this job, but the legal profession all together. Just having a plan to work on makes me feel better.
I have developed other outlets to work through this stuff so I’m not dumping on him all the time. It seems to be working! The past year or so has been a lot better. (hooray!)
The research on vicarious trauma is out there and I think it applies to the family and friends of people stuck in terrible jobs.

Reply
July 21, 2009

Karyn

I read a newspaper article about ‘vicarious trauma’ affecting health care workers.
The same theory has been applied to other “helper” fields, like advocates for domestic violence victims and advocates for children.
I made my fiance read the article because I just knew that was part of my problem with my job. (Difficult clients facing terrible problems plus an asshole boss equals trauma for sure!)
He said he often experienced many symptoms of vicarious trauma after I had a particularly bad day at work. I felt terrible that this was happening. Why would I do that to someone I love?
I am working very hard — with help from your book/blog and Gretchin Rubin’s Happiness Project among other sources — to make sure I don’t bring the bullshit home with me anymore.
I’m also working on a plan to escape not only this job, but the legal profession all together. Just having a plan to work on makes me feel better.
I have developed other outlets to work through this stuff so I’m not dumping on him all the time. It seems to be working! The past year or so has been a lot better. (hooray!)
The research on vicarious trauma is out there and I think it applies to the family and friends of people stuck in terrible jobs.

Reply
July 22, 2009

T

When my daughter was about six months old, we had a restructure that changed my working relationships. I had an asshole boss, and I got sick (colds) eight times in the next year. My one year old daughter wasn’t getting sick, just me. But, because of that, I had little energy to play with her. I also tried to avoid close contact with her when I was sick, so she would not catch my cold.
My husband and I also were arguing more often, both because I was generally cranky and he got tired of hearing about all of my work problems.
After a year and a half of being in an “abusive” work relationship, I finally found a great job and left. The worst part was that I could not trust or be open with the good person at my new job, because of my previous experience. It was like trying to stop a new relationship after leaving a husband that beat you.
There is definitely significant collateral damage that occurs from asshole bosses.

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July 22, 2009

T

When my daughter was about six months old, we had a restructure that changed my working relationships. I had an asshole boss, and I got sick (colds) eight times in the next year. My one year old daughter wasn’t getting sick, just me. But, because of that, I had little energy to play with her. I also tried to avoid close contact with her when I was sick, so she would not catch my cold.
My husband and I also were arguing more often, both because I was generally cranky and he got tired of hearing about all of my work problems.
After a year and a half of being in an “abusive” work relationship, I finally found a great job and left. The worst part was that I could not trust or be open with the good person at my new job, because of my previous experience. It was like trying to stop a new relationship after leaving a husband that beat you.
There is definitely significant collateral damage that occurs from asshole bosses.

Reply
July 22, 2009

T

When my daughter was about six months old, we had a restructure that changed my working relationships. I had an asshole boss, and I got sick (colds) eight times in the next year. My one year old daughter wasn’t getting sick, just me. But, because of that, I had little energy to play with her. I also tried to avoid close contact with her when I was sick, so she would not catch my cold.
My husband and I also were arguing more often, both because I was generally cranky and he got tired of hearing about all of my work problems.
After a year and a half of being in an “abusive” work relationship, I finally found a great job and left. The worst part was that I could not trust or be open with the good person at my new job, because of my previous experience. It was like trying to stop a new relationship after leaving a husband that beat you.
There is definitely significant collateral damage that occurs from asshole bosses.

Reply
July 22, 2009

T

When my daughter was about six months old, we had a restructure that changed my working relationships. I had an asshole boss, and I got sick (colds) eight times in the next year. My one year old daughter wasn’t getting sick, just me. But, because of that, I had little energy to play with her. I also tried to avoid close contact with her when I was sick, so she would not catch my cold.
My husband and I also were arguing more often, both because I was generally cranky and he got tired of hearing about all of my work problems.
After a year and a half of being in an “abusive” work relationship, I finally found a great job and left. The worst part was that I could not trust or be open with the good person at my new job, because of my previous experience. It was like trying to stop a new relationship after leaving a husband that beat you.
There is definitely significant collateral damage that occurs from asshole bosses.

Reply
July 22, 2009

T

When my daughter was about six months old, we had a restructure that changed my working relationships. I had an asshole boss, and I got sick (colds) eight times in the next year. My one year old daughter wasn’t getting sick, just me. But, because of that, I had little energy to play with her. I also tried to avoid close contact with her when I was sick, so she would not catch my cold.
My husband and I also were arguing more often, both because I was generally cranky and he got tired of hearing about all of my work problems.
After a year and a half of being in an “abusive” work relationship, I finally found a great job and left. The worst part was that I could not trust or be open with the good person at my new job, because of my previous experience. It was like trying to stop a new relationship after leaving a husband that beat you.
There is definitely significant collateral damage that occurs from asshole bosses.

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July 22, 2009

T

When my daughter was about six months old, we had a restructure that changed my working relationships. I had an asshole boss, and I got sick (colds) eight times in the next year. My one year old daughter wasn’t getting sick, just me. But, because of that, I had little energy to play with her. I also tried to avoid close contact with her when I was sick, so she would not catch my cold.
My husband and I also were arguing more often, both because I was generally cranky and he got tired of hearing about all of my work problems.
After a year and a half of being in an “abusive” work relationship, I finally found a great job and left. The worst part was that I could not trust or be open with the good person at my new job, because of my previous experience. It was like trying to stop a new relationship after leaving a husband that beat you.
There is definitely significant collateral damage that occurs from asshole bosses.

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July 22, 2009

T

When my daughter was about six months old, we had a restructure that changed my working relationships. I had an asshole boss, and I got sick (colds) eight times in the next year. My one year old daughter wasn’t getting sick, just me. But, because of that, I had little energy to play with her. I also tried to avoid close contact with her when I was sick, so she would not catch my cold.
My husband and I also were arguing more often, both because I was generally cranky and he got tired of hearing about all of my work problems.
After a year and a half of being in an “abusive” work relationship, I finally found a great job and left. The worst part was that I could not trust or be open with the good person at my new job, because of my previous experience. It was like trying to stop a new relationship after leaving a husband that beat you.
There is definitely significant collateral damage that occurs from asshole bosses.

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July 24, 2009

Ami

Before my dad passed away, he was very miserable. He had a pretty important job and was just under the board of directors for his company as far as positions go. I know they were very hard on him and that his job wasn’t easy to begin with. He would come home and sit on the couch and just stare. It was hard to draw him out of his reclusiveness…his bosses physically and emotionally drained him. Then he got cancer and I know they gave him a horrible time about being physically unable to come back to work. I’m not saying it’s their fault he died or that them being an asshole gave him cancer, but I think their negativity affected him so strongly emotionally as well as physically that he didn’t have the energy to be strong for himself.
~Ami
Chicago Web Design

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July 24, 2009

Ami

Before my dad passed away, he was very miserable. He had a pretty important job and was just under the board of directors for his company as far as positions go. I know they were very hard on him and that his job wasn’t easy to begin with. He would come home and sit on the couch and just stare. It was hard to draw him out of his reclusiveness…his bosses physically and emotionally drained him. Then he got cancer and I know they gave him a horrible time about being physically unable to come back to work. I’m not saying it’s their fault he died or that them being an asshole gave him cancer, but I think their negativity affected him so strongly emotionally as well as physically that he didn’t have the energy to be strong for himself.
~Ami
Chicago Web Design

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July 24, 2009

Ami

Before my dad passed away, he was very miserable. He had a pretty important job and was just under the board of directors for his company as far as positions go. I know they were very hard on him and that his job wasn’t easy to begin with. He would come home and sit on the couch and just stare. It was hard to draw him out of his reclusiveness…his bosses physically and emotionally drained him. Then he got cancer and I know they gave him a horrible time about being physically unable to come back to work. I’m not saying it’s their fault he died or that them being an asshole gave him cancer, but I think their negativity affected him so strongly emotionally as well as physically that he didn’t have the energy to be strong for himself.
~Ami
Chicago Web Design

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July 24, 2009

Ami

Before my dad passed away, he was very miserable. He had a pretty important job and was just under the board of directors for his company as far as positions go. I know they were very hard on him and that his job wasn’t easy to begin with. He would come home and sit on the couch and just stare. It was hard to draw him out of his reclusiveness…his bosses physically and emotionally drained him. Then he got cancer and I know they gave him a horrible time about being physically unable to come back to work. I’m not saying it’s their fault he died or that them being an asshole gave him cancer, but I think their negativity affected him so strongly emotionally as well as physically that he didn’t have the energy to be strong for himself.
~Ami
Chicago Web Design

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July 24, 2009

Ami

Before my dad passed away, he was very miserable. He had a pretty important job and was just under the board of directors for his company as far as positions go. I know they were very hard on him and that his job wasn’t easy to begin with. He would come home and sit on the couch and just stare. It was hard to draw him out of his reclusiveness…his bosses physically and emotionally drained him. Then he got cancer and I know they gave him a horrible time about being physically unable to come back to work. I’m not saying it’s their fault he died or that them being an asshole gave him cancer, but I think their negativity affected him so strongly emotionally as well as physically that he didn’t have the energy to be strong for himself.
~Ami
Chicago Web Design

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July 24, 2009

Ami

Before my dad passed away, he was very miserable. He had a pretty important job and was just under the board of directors for his company as far as positions go. I know they were very hard on him and that his job wasn’t easy to begin with. He would come home and sit on the couch and just stare. It was hard to draw him out of his reclusiveness…his bosses physically and emotionally drained him. Then he got cancer and I know they gave him a horrible time about being physically unable to come back to work. I’m not saying it’s their fault he died or that them being an asshole gave him cancer, but I think their negativity affected him so strongly emotionally as well as physically that he didn’t have the energy to be strong for himself.
~Ami
Chicago Web Design

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July 24, 2009

Ami

Before my dad passed away, he was very miserable. He had a pretty important job and was just under the board of directors for his company as far as positions go. I know they were very hard on him and that his job wasn’t easy to begin with. He would come home and sit on the couch and just stare. It was hard to draw him out of his reclusiveness…his bosses physically and emotionally drained him. Then he got cancer and I know they gave him a horrible time about being physically unable to come back to work. I’m not saying it’s their fault he died or that them being an asshole gave him cancer, but I think their negativity affected him so strongly emotionally as well as physically that he didn’t have the energy to be strong for himself.
~Ami
Chicago Web Design

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July 27, 2009

PerGynt

I once watched a former boss ride and belittle a co-worker until he just got sick and stopped coming to work, for good. The boss would call the guy up in the evening and tell him how worthless he was, and eventually started going over to his house and sitting in his living room just to smoke his weed and tell him how hard it was to have such a worthless employee like him. Obviously both of these people had problems, but the one shouldn’t have been the boss of the other. The employee finally broke down. It was like PTSD. He just went into his apartment and stayed there until his rent came due and he was evicted. His girl friend left. His fridge emptied out. He started eating at the soup kitchen downtown and he eventually ended up living on the street or under the bridge until somebody called his parents and they came and got him. It was kind of a perfect matchup between an employer who was a dysfunctional bully and an employee who was pliable and sumissive and who could not protect himself. The boss didn’t even treat everybody like that. He wouldn’t have considered talking to me that way, but we know now that bullies are generally cowards. I left the job because I got tired of the show and the boss called me several times in the evening after I left trying to convince me what a screw up that other guy was. This was before caller ID, so I just stopped answering the phone in the evening and it eventually stopped.

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July 27, 2009

PerGynt

I once watched a former boss ride and belittle a co-worker until he just got sick and stopped coming to work, for good. The boss would call the guy up in the evening and tell him how worthless he was, and eventually started going over to his house and sitting in his living room just to smoke his weed and tell him how hard it was to have such a worthless employee like him. Obviously both of these people had problems, but the one shouldn’t have been the boss of the other. The employee finally broke down. It was like PTSD. He just went into his apartment and stayed there until his rent came due and he was evicted. His girl friend left. His fridge emptied out. He started eating at the soup kitchen downtown and he eventually ended up living on the street or under the bridge until somebody called his parents and they came and got him. It was kind of a perfect matchup between an employer who was a dysfunctional bully and an employee who was pliable and sumissive and who could not protect himself. The boss didn’t even treat everybody like that. He wouldn’t have considered talking to me that way, but we know now that bullies are generally cowards. I left the job because I got tired of the show and the boss called me several times in the evening after I left trying to convince me what a screw up that other guy was. This was before caller ID, so I just stopped answering the phone in the evening and it eventually stopped.

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July 27, 2009

PerGynt

I once watched a former boss ride and belittle a co-worker until he just got sick and stopped coming to work, for good. The boss would call the guy up in the evening and tell him how worthless he was, and eventually started going over to his house and sitting in his living room just to smoke his weed and tell him how hard it was to have such a worthless employee like him. Obviously both of these people had problems, but the one shouldn’t have been the boss of the other. The employee finally broke down. It was like PTSD. He just went into his apartment and stayed there until his rent came due and he was evicted. His girl friend left. His fridge emptied out. He started eating at the soup kitchen downtown and he eventually ended up living on the street or under the bridge until somebody called his parents and they came and got him. It was kind of a perfect matchup between an employer who was a dysfunctional bully and an employee who was pliable and sumissive and who could not protect himself. The boss didn’t even treat everybody like that. He wouldn’t have considered talking to me that way, but we know now that bullies are generally cowards. I left the job because I got tired of the show and the boss called me several times in the evening after I left trying to convince me what a screw up that other guy was. This was before caller ID, so I just stopped answering the phone in the evening and it eventually stopped.

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July 27, 2009

PerGynt

I once watched a former boss ride and belittle a co-worker until he just got sick and stopped coming to work, for good. The boss would call the guy up in the evening and tell him how worthless he was, and eventually started going over to his house and sitting in his living room just to smoke his weed and tell him how hard it was to have such a worthless employee like him. Obviously both of these people had problems, but the one shouldn’t have been the boss of the other. The employee finally broke down. It was like PTSD. He just went into his apartment and stayed there until his rent came due and he was evicted. His girl friend left. His fridge emptied out. He started eating at the soup kitchen downtown and he eventually ended up living on the street or under the bridge until somebody called his parents and they came and got him. It was kind of a perfect matchup between an employer who was a dysfunctional bully and an employee who was pliable and sumissive and who could not protect himself. The boss didn’t even treat everybody like that. He wouldn’t have considered talking to me that way, but we know now that bullies are generally cowards. I left the job because I got tired of the show and the boss called me several times in the evening after I left trying to convince me what a screw up that other guy was. This was before caller ID, so I just stopped answering the phone in the evening and it eventually stopped.

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July 27, 2009

PerGynt

I once watched a former boss ride and belittle a co-worker until he just got sick and stopped coming to work, for good. The boss would call the guy up in the evening and tell him how worthless he was, and eventually started going over to his house and sitting in his living room just to smoke his weed and tell him how hard it was to have such a worthless employee like him. Obviously both of these people had problems, but the one shouldn’t have been the boss of the other. The employee finally broke down. It was like PTSD. He just went into his apartment and stayed there until his rent came due and he was evicted. His girl friend left. His fridge emptied out. He started eating at the soup kitchen downtown and he eventually ended up living on the street or under the bridge until somebody called his parents and they came and got him. It was kind of a perfect matchup between an employer who was a dysfunctional bully and an employee who was pliable and sumissive and who could not protect himself. The boss didn’t even treat everybody like that. He wouldn’t have considered talking to me that way, but we know now that bullies are generally cowards. I left the job because I got tired of the show and the boss called me several times in the evening after I left trying to convince me what a screw up that other guy was. This was before caller ID, so I just stopped answering the phone in the evening and it eventually stopped.

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July 27, 2009

PerGynt

I once watched a former boss ride and belittle a co-worker until he just got sick and stopped coming to work, for good. The boss would call the guy up in the evening and tell him how worthless he was, and eventually started going over to his house and sitting in his living room just to smoke his weed and tell him how hard it was to have such a worthless employee like him. Obviously both of these people had problems, but the one shouldn’t have been the boss of the other. The employee finally broke down. It was like PTSD. He just went into his apartment and stayed there until his rent came due and he was evicted. His girl friend left. His fridge emptied out. He started eating at the soup kitchen downtown and he eventually ended up living on the street or under the bridge until somebody called his parents and they came and got him. It was kind of a perfect matchup between an employer who was a dysfunctional bully and an employee who was pliable and sumissive and who could not protect himself. The boss didn’t even treat everybody like that. He wouldn’t have considered talking to me that way, but we know now that bullies are generally cowards. I left the job because I got tired of the show and the boss called me several times in the evening after I left trying to convince me what a screw up that other guy was. This was before caller ID, so I just stopped answering the phone in the evening and it eventually stopped.

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July 27, 2009

PerGynt

I once watched a former boss ride and belittle a co-worker until he just got sick and stopped coming to work, for good. The boss would call the guy up in the evening and tell him how worthless he was, and eventually started going over to his house and sitting in his living room just to smoke his weed and tell him how hard it was to have such a worthless employee like him. Obviously both of these people had problems, but the one shouldn’t have been the boss of the other. The employee finally broke down. It was like PTSD. He just went into his apartment and stayed there until his rent came due and he was evicted. His girl friend left. His fridge emptied out. He started eating at the soup kitchen downtown and he eventually ended up living on the street or under the bridge until somebody called his parents and they came and got him. It was kind of a perfect matchup between an employer who was a dysfunctional bully and an employee who was pliable and sumissive and who could not protect himself. The boss didn’t even treat everybody like that. He wouldn’t have considered talking to me that way, but we know now that bullies are generally cowards. I left the job because I got tired of the show and the boss called me several times in the evening after I left trying to convince me what a screw up that other guy was. This was before caller ID, so I just stopped answering the phone in the evening and it eventually stopped.

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September 3, 2009

openid.aol.com/bluebarns55

As a self-employed, I don’t have an a**hole boss, but have had clients from time to time. The last one passed your a**hole client test with flaming colors. While I was working for them, my morale was down, I obsessed about the relationship, I dumped on my family, lost sleep, and felt incompetent with my other clients. Naturally this had a bad effect on my family, who had to live with a depressed, obsessed, insomniac.
I’ve for all intents cut them loose, and am so glad I have. I learned a lot about boundaries (and what to do when people don’t have them), but I also learned that I need to listen to that little voice that says “danger” (aka a**hole) when I first meet a client.

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September 3, 2009

openid.aol.com/bluebarns55

As a self-employed, I don’t have an a**hole boss, but have had clients from time to time. The last one passed your a**hole client test with flaming colors. While I was working for them, my morale was down, I obsessed about the relationship, I dumped on my family, lost sleep, and felt incompetent with my other clients. Naturally this had a bad effect on my family, who had to live with a depressed, obsessed, insomniac.
I’ve for all intents cut them loose, and am so glad I have. I learned a lot about boundaries (and what to do when people don’t have them), but I also learned that I need to listen to that little voice that says “danger” (aka a**hole) when I first meet a client.

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September 3, 2009

openid.aol.com/bluebarns55

As a self-employed, I don’t have an a**hole boss, but have had clients from time to time. The last one passed your a**hole client test with flaming colors. While I was working for them, my morale was down, I obsessed about the relationship, I dumped on my family, lost sleep, and felt incompetent with my other clients. Naturally this had a bad effect on my family, who had to live with a depressed, obsessed, insomniac.
I’ve for all intents cut them loose, and am so glad I have. I learned a lot about boundaries (and what to do when people don’t have them), but I also learned that I need to listen to that little voice that says “danger” (aka a**hole) when I first meet a client.

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September 3, 2009

openid.aol.com/bluebarns55

As a self-employed, I don’t have an a**hole boss, but have had clients from time to time. The last one passed your a**hole client test with flaming colors. While I was working for them, my morale was down, I obsessed about the relationship, I dumped on my family, lost sleep, and felt incompetent with my other clients. Naturally this had a bad effect on my family, who had to live with a depressed, obsessed, insomniac.
I’ve for all intents cut them loose, and am so glad I have. I learned a lot about boundaries (and what to do when people don’t have them), but I also learned that I need to listen to that little voice that says “danger” (aka a**hole) when I first meet a client.

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September 3, 2009

openid.aol.com/bluebarns55

As a self-employed, I don’t have an a**hole boss, but have had clients from time to time. The last one passed your a**hole client test with flaming colors. While I was working for them, my morale was down, I obsessed about the relationship, I dumped on my family, lost sleep, and felt incompetent with my other clients. Naturally this had a bad effect on my family, who had to live with a depressed, obsessed, insomniac.
I’ve for all intents cut them loose, and am so glad I have. I learned a lot about boundaries (and what to do when people don’t have them), but I also learned that I need to listen to that little voice that says “danger” (aka a**hole) when I first meet a client.

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September 3, 2009

openid.aol.com/bluebarns55

As a self-employed, I don’t have an a**hole boss, but have had clients from time to time. The last one passed your a**hole client test with flaming colors. While I was working for them, my morale was down, I obsessed about the relationship, I dumped on my family, lost sleep, and felt incompetent with my other clients. Naturally this had a bad effect on my family, who had to live with a depressed, obsessed, insomniac.
I’ve for all intents cut them loose, and am so glad I have. I learned a lot about boundaries (and what to do when people don’t have them), but I also learned that I need to listen to that little voice that says “danger” (aka a**hole) when I first meet a client.

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September 3, 2009

openid.aol.com/bluebarns55

As a self-employed, I don’t have an a**hole boss, but have had clients from time to time. The last one passed your a**hole client test with flaming colors. While I was working for them, my morale was down, I obsessed about the relationship, I dumped on my family, lost sleep, and felt incompetent with my other clients. Naturally this had a bad effect on my family, who had to live with a depressed, obsessed, insomniac.
I’ve for all intents cut them loose, and am so glad I have. I learned a lot about boundaries (and what to do when people don’t have them), but I also learned that I need to listen to that little voice that says “danger” (aka a**hole) when I first meet a client.

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October 12, 2009

RG

I was only at my job for 3 months but the net effects have been lasting. I don’t enjoy my hobbies, I have limited interested in my family and friends. I wonder what I did wrong, both in choosing the environment and in dealing with it, all the time. I have limited focus on the studies and job-search to move on. In 8 months, i think I have done 4 months of productive work. I can’t imagine how much worse it would have been to be there longer.
Reading about bullying has helped me sort out that it was not my fault, that not all places have this problem, that the subsequent self-doubt is natural. But that doesn’t mean I see it any more clearly than I did when I was in it.

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October 12, 2009

RG

I was only at my job for 3 months but the net effects have been lasting. I don’t enjoy my hobbies, I have limited interested in my family and friends. I wonder what I did wrong, both in choosing the environment and in dealing with it, all the time. I have limited focus on the studies and job-search to move on. In 8 months, i think I have done 4 months of productive work. I can’t imagine how much worse it would have been to be there longer.
Reading about bullying has helped me sort out that it was not my fault, that not all places have this problem, that the subsequent self-doubt is natural. But that doesn’t mean I see it any more clearly than I did when I was in it.

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October 12, 2009

RG

I was only at my job for 3 months but the net effects have been lasting. I don’t enjoy my hobbies, I have limited interested in my family and friends. I wonder what I did wrong, both in choosing the environment and in dealing with it, all the time. I have limited focus on the studies and job-search to move on. In 8 months, i think I have done 4 months of productive work. I can’t imagine how much worse it would have been to be there longer.
Reading about bullying has helped me sort out that it was not my fault, that not all places have this problem, that the subsequent self-doubt is natural. But that doesn’t mean I see it any more clearly than I did when I was in it.

Reply
October 12, 2009

RG

I was only at my job for 3 months but the net effects have been lasting. I don’t enjoy my hobbies, I have limited interested in my family and friends. I wonder what I did wrong, both in choosing the environment and in dealing with it, all the time. I have limited focus on the studies and job-search to move on. In 8 months, i think I have done 4 months of productive work. I can’t imagine how much worse it would have been to be there longer.
Reading about bullying has helped me sort out that it was not my fault, that not all places have this problem, that the subsequent self-doubt is natural. But that doesn’t mean I see it any more clearly than I did when I was in it.

Reply
October 12, 2009

RG

I was only at my job for 3 months but the net effects have been lasting. I don’t enjoy my hobbies, I have limited interested in my family and friends. I wonder what I did wrong, both in choosing the environment and in dealing with it, all the time. I have limited focus on the studies and job-search to move on. In 8 months, i think I have done 4 months of productive work. I can’t imagine how much worse it would have been to be there longer.
Reading about bullying has helped me sort out that it was not my fault, that not all places have this problem, that the subsequent self-doubt is natural. But that doesn’t mean I see it any more clearly than I did when I was in it.

Reply
October 12, 2009

RG

I was only at my job for 3 months but the net effects have been lasting. I don’t enjoy my hobbies, I have limited interested in my family and friends. I wonder what I did wrong, both in choosing the environment and in dealing with it, all the time. I have limited focus on the studies and job-search to move on. In 8 months, i think I have done 4 months of productive work. I can’t imagine how much worse it would have been to be there longer.
Reading about bullying has helped me sort out that it was not my fault, that not all places have this problem, that the subsequent self-doubt is natural. But that doesn’t mean I see it any more clearly than I did when I was in it.

Reply
October 12, 2009

RG

I was only at my job for 3 months but the net effects have been lasting. I don’t enjoy my hobbies, I have limited interested in my family and friends. I wonder what I did wrong, both in choosing the environment and in dealing with it, all the time. I have limited focus on the studies and job-search to move on. In 8 months, i think I have done 4 months of productive work. I can’t imagine how much worse it would have been to be there longer.
Reading about bullying has helped me sort out that it was not my fault, that not all places have this problem, that the subsequent self-doubt is natural. But that doesn’t mean I see it any more clearly than I did when I was in it.

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November 8, 2010

Johnny

I feel miserable working with belittling bullying asshole colleagues and an asshole boss. The work environment is very harsh and demanding. Everyone has to put away the blame just to get away and hide from their mistakes. I had never experienced this from any of my previews jobs until then. I no longer have time for my family and for my self.

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November 8, 2010

Johnny

I feel miserable working with belittling bullying asshole colleagues and an asshole boss. The work environment is very harsh and demanding. Everyone has to put away the blame just to get away and hide from their mistakes. I had never experienced this from any of my previews jobs until then. I no longer have time for my family and for my self.

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November 8, 2010

Johnny

I feel miserable working with belittling bullying asshole colleagues and an asshole boss. The work environment is very harsh and demanding. Everyone has to put away the blame just to get away and hide from their mistakes. I had never experienced this from any of my previews jobs until then. I no longer have time for my family and for my self.

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November 8, 2010

Johnny

I feel miserable working with belittling bullying asshole colleagues and an asshole boss. The work environment is very harsh and demanding. Everyone has to put away the blame just to get away and hide from their mistakes. I had never experienced this from any of my previews jobs until then. I no longer have time for my family and for my self.

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November 8, 2010

Johnny

I feel miserable working with belittling bullying asshole colleagues and an asshole boss. The work environment is very harsh and demanding. Everyone has to put away the blame just to get away and hide from their mistakes. I had never experienced this from any of my previews jobs until then. I no longer have time for my family and for my self.

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November 8, 2010

Johnny

I feel miserable working with belittling bullying asshole colleagues and an asshole boss. The work environment is very harsh and demanding. Everyone has to put away the blame just to get away and hide from their mistakes. I had never experienced this from any of my previews jobs until then. I no longer have time for my family and for my self.

Reply
November 8, 2010

Johnny

I feel miserable working with belittling bullying asshole colleagues and an asshole boss. The work environment is very harsh and demanding. Everyone has to put away the blame just to get away and hide from their mistakes. I had never experienced this from any of my previews jobs until then. I no longer have time for my family and for my self.

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November 17, 2010

Bull

I find that bully/asshole bosses are base cowards at heart. I’ve run into at least 3 of them outside of the workplace and they wouldn’t even chance a glance at me even though they clearly knew I was there and was staring at them, HARD. It’s because they’re such vile punks/punkettes outside the work place that they get off so much on being a tough guy in the safety of the office environment.

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November 17, 2010

Bull

I find that bully/asshole bosses are base cowards at heart. I’ve run into at least 3 of them outside of the workplace and they wouldn’t even chance a glance at me even though they clearly knew I was there and was staring at them, HARD. It’s because they’re such vile punks/punkettes outside the work place that they get off so much on being a tough guy in the safety of the office environment.

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November 17, 2010

Bull

I find that bully/asshole bosses are base cowards at heart. I’ve run into at least 3 of them outside of the workplace and they wouldn’t even chance a glance at me even though they clearly knew I was there and was staring at them, HARD. It’s because they’re such vile punks/punkettes outside the work place that they get off so much on being a tough guy in the safety of the office environment.

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November 17, 2010

Bull

I find that bully/asshole bosses are base cowards at heart. I’ve run into at least 3 of them outside of the workplace and they wouldn’t even chance a glance at me even though they clearly knew I was there and was staring at them, HARD. It’s because they’re such vile punks/punkettes outside the work place that they get off so much on being a tough guy in the safety of the office environment.

Reply
November 17, 2010

Bull

I find that bully/asshole bosses are base cowards at heart. I’ve run into at least 3 of them outside of the workplace and they wouldn’t even chance a glance at me even though they clearly knew I was there and was staring at them, HARD. It’s because they’re such vile punks/punkettes outside the work place that they get off so much on being a tough guy in the safety of the office environment.

Reply
November 17, 2010

Bull

I find that bully/asshole bosses are base cowards at heart. I’ve run into at least 3 of them outside of the workplace and they wouldn’t even chance a glance at me even though they clearly knew I was there and was staring at them, HARD. It’s because they’re such vile punks/punkettes outside the work place that they get off so much on being a tough guy in the safety of the office environment.

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November 17, 2010

Bull

I find that bully/asshole bosses are base cowards at heart. I’ve run into at least 3 of them outside of the workplace and they wouldn’t even chance a glance at me even though they clearly knew I was there and was staring at them, HARD. It’s because they’re such vile punks/punkettes outside the work place that they get off so much on being a tough guy in the safety of the office environment.

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March 10, 2011

Koujex

I am leaving you an E-mail because i would like to just ask you. You seem too have an idea for problems and mine is not difrent but a very common one amostst family owned buisness

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March 10, 2011

Koujex

I am leaving you an E-mail because i would like to just ask you. You seem too have an idea for problems and mine is not difrent but a very common one amostst family owned buisness

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March 10, 2011

Koujex

I am leaving you an E-mail because i would like to just ask you. You seem too have an idea for problems and mine is not difrent but a very common one amostst family owned buisness

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March 10, 2011

Koujex

I am leaving you an E-mail because i would like to just ask you. You seem too have an idea for problems and mine is not difrent but a very common one amostst family owned buisness

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March 10, 2011

Koujex

I am leaving you an E-mail because i would like to just ask you. You seem too have an idea for problems and mine is not difrent but a very common one amostst family owned buisness

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March 10, 2011

Koujex

I am leaving you an E-mail because i would like to just ask you. You seem too have an idea for problems and mine is not difrent but a very common one amostst family owned buisness

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March 10, 2011

Koujex

I am leaving you an E-mail because i would like to just ask you. You seem too have an idea for problems and mine is not difrent but a very common one amostst family owned buisness

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September 11, 2011

renee

I am now in an uncomfortable situation with my boss. He is known for being an asshole. One time myself and a co-worker had an problem working together and his way of fixing the problem was to use intimidation. He told me a story about how a previous employee had a disagreement with him and he fired him. He went so far one time, and stood across the room from where I was working and stared at me while I was helping someone. I tried to just do my job and ignore him and try to put it behind me until the very next time I worked with him he walked into a room where I was working didn’t say anything to me just looked at me, walked pass me then turned around and walked out the room. I think about this everyday and I feel uncomfortable on a daily basis. Whether I am working with him or not. The only time I talk to him is when I absolutly have to. Everytime I talk to him I feel like he intentionally becomes combative and disagrees with me just to make me feel inferior. I know that if he fires me for disagreeing with him or another employee I have a grounds to sue the company. I just get really sad and depressed when I know I have to work with him. My friends have seen me upset and crying when I talk about this. I just don’t want to quit because I know that there is a possibility that at my next job my new boss can be worse. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place.

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September 11, 2011

renee

I am now in an uncomfortable situation with my boss. He is known for being an asshole. One time myself and a co-worker had an problem working together and his way of fixing the problem was to use intimidation. He told me a story about how a previous employee had a disagreement with him and he fired him. He went so far one time, and stood across the room from where I was working and stared at me while I was helping someone. I tried to just do my job and ignore him and try to put it behind me until the very next time I worked with him he walked into a room where I was working didn’t say anything to me just looked at me, walked pass me then turned around and walked out the room. I think about this everyday and I feel uncomfortable on a daily basis. Whether I am working with him or not. The only time I talk to him is when I absolutly have to. Everytime I talk to him I feel like he intentionally becomes combative and disagrees with me just to make me feel inferior. I know that if he fires me for disagreeing with him or another employee I have a grounds to sue the company. I just get really sad and depressed when I know I have to work with him. My friends have seen me upset and crying when I talk about this. I just don’t want to quit because I know that there is a possibility that at my next job my new boss can be worse. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place.

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September 11, 2011

renee

I am now in an uncomfortable situation with my boss. He is known for being an asshole. One time myself and a co-worker had an problem working together and his way of fixing the problem was to use intimidation. He told me a story about how a previous employee had a disagreement with him and he fired him. He went so far one time, and stood across the room from where I was working and stared at me while I was helping someone. I tried to just do my job and ignore him and try to put it behind me until the very next time I worked with him he walked into a room where I was working didn’t say anything to me just looked at me, walked pass me then turned around and walked out the room. I think about this everyday and I feel uncomfortable on a daily basis. Whether I am working with him or not. The only time I talk to him is when I absolutly have to. Everytime I talk to him I feel like he intentionally becomes combative and disagrees with me just to make me feel inferior. I know that if he fires me for disagreeing with him or another employee I have a grounds to sue the company. I just get really sad and depressed when I know I have to work with him. My friends have seen me upset and crying when I talk about this. I just don’t want to quit because I know that there is a possibility that at my next job my new boss can be worse. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place.

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September 11, 2011

renee

I am now in an uncomfortable situation with my boss. He is known for being an asshole. One time myself and a co-worker had an problem working together and his way of fixing the problem was to use intimidation. He told me a story about how a previous employee had a disagreement with him and he fired him. He went so far one time, and stood across the room from where I was working and stared at me while I was helping someone. I tried to just do my job and ignore him and try to put it behind me until the very next time I worked with him he walked into a room where I was working didn’t say anything to me just looked at me, walked pass me then turned around and walked out the room. I think about this everyday and I feel uncomfortable on a daily basis. Whether I am working with him or not. The only time I talk to him is when I absolutly have to. Everytime I talk to him I feel like he intentionally becomes combative and disagrees with me just to make me feel inferior. I know that if he fires me for disagreeing with him or another employee I have a grounds to sue the company. I just get really sad and depressed when I know I have to work with him. My friends have seen me upset and crying when I talk about this. I just don’t want to quit because I know that there is a possibility that at my next job my new boss can be worse. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place.

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September 11, 2011

renee

I am now in an uncomfortable situation with my boss. He is known for being an asshole. One time myself and a co-worker had an problem working together and his way of fixing the problem was to use intimidation. He told me a story about how a previous employee had a disagreement with him and he fired him. He went so far one time, and stood across the room from where I was working and stared at me while I was helping someone. I tried to just do my job and ignore him and try to put it behind me until the very next time I worked with him he walked into a room where I was working didn’t say anything to me just looked at me, walked pass me then turned around and walked out the room. I think about this everyday and I feel uncomfortable on a daily basis. Whether I am working with him or not. The only time I talk to him is when I absolutly have to. Everytime I talk to him I feel like he intentionally becomes combative and disagrees with me just to make me feel inferior. I know that if he fires me for disagreeing with him or another employee I have a grounds to sue the company. I just get really sad and depressed when I know I have to work with him. My friends have seen me upset and crying when I talk about this. I just don’t want to quit because I know that there is a possibility that at my next job my new boss can be worse. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place.

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September 11, 2011

renee

I am now in an uncomfortable situation with my boss. He is known for being an asshole. One time myself and a co-worker had an problem working together and his way of fixing the problem was to use intimidation. He told me a story about how a previous employee had a disagreement with him and he fired him. He went so far one time, and stood across the room from where I was working and stared at me while I was helping someone. I tried to just do my job and ignore him and try to put it behind me until the very next time I worked with him he walked into a room where I was working didn’t say anything to me just looked at me, walked pass me then turned around and walked out the room. I think about this everyday and I feel uncomfortable on a daily basis. Whether I am working with him or not. The only time I talk to him is when I absolutly have to. Everytime I talk to him I feel like he intentionally becomes combative and disagrees with me just to make me feel inferior. I know that if he fires me for disagreeing with him or another employee I have a grounds to sue the company. I just get really sad and depressed when I know I have to work with him. My friends have seen me upset and crying when I talk about this. I just don’t want to quit because I know that there is a possibility that at my next job my new boss can be worse. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place.

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September 11, 2011

renee

I am now in an uncomfortable situation with my boss. He is known for being an asshole. One time myself and a co-worker had an problem working together and his way of fixing the problem was to use intimidation. He told me a story about how a previous employee had a disagreement with him and he fired him. He went so far one time, and stood across the room from where I was working and stared at me while I was helping someone. I tried to just do my job and ignore him and try to put it behind me until the very next time I worked with him he walked into a room where I was working didn’t say anything to me just looked at me, walked pass me then turned around and walked out the room. I think about this everyday and I feel uncomfortable on a daily basis. Whether I am working with him or not. The only time I talk to him is when I absolutly have to. Everytime I talk to him I feel like he intentionally becomes combative and disagrees with me just to make me feel inferior. I know that if he fires me for disagreeing with him or another employee I have a grounds to sue the company. I just get really sad and depressed when I know I have to work with him. My friends have seen me upset and crying when I talk about this. I just don’t want to quit because I know that there is a possibility that at my next job my new boss can be worse. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place.

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