Hasshole = Hassle+Asshole?

I never heard this slang until this morning, when I colleague used it in an email (it was a friendly email).  It turns out to be in the Urban Dictionary, and one of the definitions of Hasshole is "a huge asshole." I don't quite understand the other definition.  I would propose a third, which is a blend of asshole and hassle. You know, the kind of person who wants a small thing from you or you need to get back to, but rather than an occasional gentle push, sends you four emails a day (all marked urgent), calls you constantly, or tracks down your location and –even if you are in a meeting with someone else — barges right in and starts making his or her request.  My experience, at least in universities, is that faculty are much more likely to be hassholes of this flavor than students, as students who act like this tend to have real concerns and real deadlines.

Note that there is some evidence that such tactics work, that squeaky wheels get the grease.  I am not especially skilled or prone to passive-aggression, but I notice that I respond to Hassholes with it — responding especially slowly and being especially unlikely to respond to their requests.  I am thinking of a now -retired State Farm insurance agent I had, who when we had not quite completed the paperwork for something that I guess would earn her a commission, she called us — and both of our offices — every day and even violated our privacy by explaining what it was for and what she needed from us to our coworkers.  Of course, when we needed help with unusual insurance claim a few months earlier, she and her staff had been remarkably unhelpful to the point where, after just a couple phone calls, we gave-up trying to get  help.  So I guess another part of this is reciprocity. Some people who can be very insistent, but I love them — because they give you a lot and ask for a lot.  As I think of it, those are some of my favorite people.

One of my theories (speaking of happiness) is that I am especially unlikely to say yes to requests from people who I see as hassholes when it means I will need to spend more time with that person in the future.  There are so many delightful people in the world, why not say yes to them and invite them to join you, and just decline invitations to meet or work with hassholes?

Note also that hassholes are the people most likely to be charged "asshole taxes" in life — at least based on conversations I've had over the past few years.

Let me know if you have any tips for dealing with hassholes.